My husband has a myspace page that I know about (I have one too) but today I stumbled upon where he had opened a second one that says he's single and doesn't want kids. It has not been logged into for over a year and he never posted a picture on it. I think he set it up but never logged back in again after he set it up. Like I said, it was over a year ago..
Should I just ignore it? Or do you think this is something worth mentioning to him?
2006-12-09 06:53:32 · 25 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've been married over two years- it's not from before he knew me.
2006-12-09 06:58:52 · update #1
Where is the COMMUNICATION in your marriage? If you want to know why HE did something then you're going to have to speak to HIM about it since HE is the only one who can give you an answer.
2006-12-09 07:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ahhh....the double edged sword. Been at this fork in the road. What I would do is leave it alone, for now. If you bring it up to him, depending on his personality, he could ask why you were checking up on him. I would wait and see if it continues to come up on your computer's history. If he continues to log into that myspace id, then you'll know he's aware of it and hasn't made the decision to change the information to married. That's when I'd bring it up.
It could be a myspace screw up - which is common. But I think bringing it to his attention may make him wonder why you'd doubt him.
Take the wait and see approach, for both your sakes.
2006-12-09 07:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by skyblueme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he obviously thought better of it and never used it, so I would say no harm no foul. I am sure you don't remember back to the exact date he set that up(i.e. what was happening that day) which could have been maybe a bad argument day?? Possibly quite a bit of time had gone by(for his standards) with no sex. Or, he simply might have been just messing around to see what reactions he might have gotten. Since he never used it though and you can obviously keep track now to find out if he does, I don't think you have anything at all to worry about.
2006-12-09 07:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about counseling!!!!! The fact that he never used it says he doesn't actually feel that way towards your relationship. It may have been a bad day or maybe you had had an argument and he opened it out of frustration. If you had made a mistake about something and later realized it, would you want him to bring it up a year later and you have to explain it. You should feel very secure under the circumstances.
2006-12-09 07:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by duncabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its anything to worry about, because he never posted a picture, or was active with it. He never used it right? Then, he opened one that he uses now that says he's married. And if there are no messages from women on there or anything, then you know its not worth getting upset about.
i do suggest you ask him about it, just to see what he'll tell you. Besides, if you never ask, you'll always wonder and somehow feel resentment towards him.
2006-12-09 07:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he got one AFTER you guys got married.... they yeah he got one just to meet girls!! even if he hasnt logged on for over a year. you need to confront him about it. if he had a myspace for over a year and u didnt know about it, then u dont know what else hes doing. i would get rid of myspace alltogether.my hubby had one that i knew about and all it did was cause drama!!!
2006-12-09 07:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by jrs wife! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it but check it periodically. Like you said he hasn't logged in for over a year.
2006-12-09 06:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared for a limited response. There's not much that he's going to tell you. He's going to likely cry innocence anyway since it was so long ago. I'd mention it anyway. But perhaps those are the default answers when someone starts an account but skips those questions.
2006-12-09 07:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your married, bonded, in love. you vowed to spend the rest of your life together. you must be honest with eachother.. and ignoring this like this could pile up, and lead to pure destruction of your relationship. he loves you, clearly, and you deserve to know. it may sound petty, "can you explain that myspace page, where it says your single and dont want kids". obviously he'll be shocked, but probably relieved. there must be something behind it.. i'd ask him before you create your own answers to why he did it. you could drive yourself crazy.. goodluck!
2006-12-09 06:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let it go, myspace auto populates that info. Now if he had put a picture or updated any information i would worry but since its a blank page, dont worry about it....
2006-12-09 07:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by BPZ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't been on it for over a year, I'd ignore it. Maybe he was frustrated one night. Maybe he was drunk. Maybe he was feeling needy.
That said, take it as a sign that something might be bothering him about your relationship. But I'd let it slide unless you find something else.
2006-12-09 06:57:27 · answer #11 · answered by T J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋