Ok. I really need to get a job to help my family out. But i'm really shy and i freak out when i'm the center of attention. I hate giving public speaches or having to do something that anyone is judging me on.
I hate interviews. When they ask me what i want to do i have no idea what to say. I don't know what i want to go to school for. I have no idea what i want to be. Then they ask me how this job will help me and i don't know. They ask me what i like to do and theres nothing really because i'm too shy infront of people. All i do is listen to music and hang out with my friends.
Can anyone give me tips on how to deal with this or how to get over it. Would stress pills or some kind of medicine help me?Thanks
2006-12-09 06:52:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I have the same problem you do. I have a job now but I'm convinced the only reason I got it was because I was suggested for it by people that I know.
2006-12-09 06:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by casew2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have some answers prepared ahead of time. If you don't have any goals make some up. tell them you are interested in helping people. Maybe you should get a job in the music industry (they won't pay you much) and you can put some of your knowledge to use. You can say this job will help me build the skills I need for my future goal of working with people, or working in a specific industry or you can just say "I'm really interested in [whatever it is the company does] and I'd like to learn as much as I can..."
If you can talk to some people who work at the company before you go in for the interview, try to find out what kinds of things the interviewer is looking for.
also, remember that no one is judging you personally, they are just trying to find the right fit fot their department. If you get passed up for a job it is not a reflection on you as a person. Trust the interviewer to know if you are a good fit or not, the last thing you want to do is get stuck working with a bunch of people who you have nothing in common with and don't like.
Oh and don't take pills. practice with friends instead go to monster.com they have some good practice interview questions go throught them with a friend, if you can come up with an answer to if you were a tree what kind of tree would you be? then you can come up with an answer to what is the most important thing to you in a company? (good customer service is a good answer).
2006-12-09 07:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by cadillacrazy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when you hanging out with your friends, why dont you ask them to role play with you. They can act as your interviewer or vice versa. Practice makes perfect. You seem to be young and smart enough to identify your problem and your problem is being shy, there is nothing wrong with that. Perhaps you can eliminate it a little bit by practice, practice and more practice. Pills are not going to help they may even have an effect that you cannot control. One last thing, be confident with yourself and focus to your goal- that is helping your family. That by itself tells me that you are a very good person.
2006-12-09 07:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by trykindness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meds aren't going to help you. It sounds like you have low self esteem and that's something you CAN work on if you choose to. Check out toastmasters.org for help with public speaking. Take a career exploration class for ideas on what kinds of jobs you would like to do. Talk to your family and friends about your strengths and weaknesses and ask for criticism on how to better present yourself. Many of us go through life without knowing what our calling is but you should at least try to find it by reaching inside yourself. Take the next step and do something for you... read a book, take a class, talk to a counselor but do something!!!
2006-12-09 07:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and relax it works for me . I hope this helps , all the best
2006-12-09 07:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋