how do i tell my parents that i'm bi?

Question

i'm really scared to tell them because i don't think my dad would except it amd my mom would side with him.

Answer 1

You need to tell them at home where they're comfortable and make sure you guys are alone and tell them that you love them and then just tell them.Give them time if they don't know what to say at first.

Answer 2

I asume you live with them and that's why it looks so terrifying to tell your parents you are bi... But once you live on your own you don't have to answer about your sexuality to no one but yourself.
On the other side, it is always healthy to have your family by your side.... This is not always easy. Parents always have expectations regarding their children. When something doesn't go with their plans, they get frustrated. The more mature they are, the better they can handle it. It's the same with career path, sexuality, sports, hobbies, etc etc... Bottom line: even when they'll be shocked, try talking to them pointing out that you are a lot more than just your sexual peference and that their love and support has never been based on it, so it shouldn't affect your relationship with them.

Answer 3

I would wait untill you are eighteen and or able to support yourself. I would also explain to them that just because you have a different sexual orientation than them this does not make you a diffesrent perosn or wierd. Lastly I am sorry that you have this cross to bear, but perhaps you are more curious than anythign and this is a passing phase, either way you should not act on your feeling towards the same gender in a sexual manner.

Good LUCK and God Bless...Im sure your parents love you and will come top understand, but do not expect them to be ok right off the bat, it will take some getting used to.

Answer 4

If you don't think they would, at the very least make sure you're confident they won't throw you out.

Get them in a good mood, that's the most important thing once you're ready to let them know. Just straight out tell them, perhaps have some material printed to show them debunking of common myths about bi people (like that they're just after more sex).

Answer 5

If you are still living with them, you may want to wait until you've moved out. Also, you might want to come out to friends and/or gay/bi people first. The more people you come out to, the easier it becomes. When it comes to tackling your parents, you'll feel better if you've got support behind you. How you tell your parents is up to you. However, what you must remember is that you've had a long time to come to terms with your orientation. If your parents haven't suspected anything, then it will be new to them - and you will have to understand this and be patient with them.

One response you may get might be "If you've got the capability to be attracted to the opposite sex as well as your own, why on earth would you want to get with someone of the same sex as you?"

Your response may be, "Why shouldn't I get with someone of the same sex if I really love that person?"

Answer 6

One of the things I found really helpful when I was coming out to my parents was this list:
http://www.joekort.com/articles60.htm...

Also, I dropped a lot of hints to my parents before I told them. I talked openly about my lesbian friend or my gay roommate. I mentioned going to gay bars and protests. I had a pride button on my backpack. I mentioned that I thought it was bullsh*t that gays couldn't marry. I mentioned loving gay themed shows and films.

By the time I told them I was gay, no one was suprised. And that gave them a lot time to think through it on their own, discuss it with others, and come to terms with it. By the time I dropped the "I'm bi" bomb, the response was "finally!".

I'm not saying that will necessarily be the case, but it is easier to fight with your parents over "should gay people be allowed to marry" as an abstract, rather then feeling as though you are discussing YOU as a person. And most adults who are straight have just never thought about gayness or gay issues, and just need a little education.

And educating myself gave me so much self confidence. I read "Am I Blue" and "Queer in America". I read "The Kid" and "The Committment" by Dan Savage. I read fiction like "Geography Club" and "Tipping the Velvet". It made me feel more confident and learned and less alone.

My fingers are crossed for you!

Answer 7

You don't necessarily *have* to tell them, unless you plan to have an open relationship with a non-traditional partner. If that is the case, then you should be firm in your right to love whom you choose. Do not look embarrassed or confused about the situation. Let them know plainly that this is who you are and how you want to pursue it. They have to either respect you for your honesty, or they will react negatively no matter what you say. It's your best chance for a positive reaction.

Be respectful of them too. Let them know that this is not a method of rebellion or a reflection of outward influences. Let them know you love them.

Answer 8

Don't. I don't know why people torture themselves with this. It's none of their business and it's just going to cause trouble - so why bother. I have never discussed my sexuality with my family. It is what it is. I think people get caught up in others approval. It's my life. I am only on this planet for a short time. I am going to love who I love. They don't pay my bills. If you are still living at home though, I wouldn't go shoving it in their face - keep your private life - private. Once you are on your own, no one has a say and they can get over it if they want to see you.

Answer 9

You don't until you are grown, living on your own, and paying your own way. And then you only tell them if you get serious with someone of the same sex. Until then, do your thing, be safe, meet lots of different people and have fun. Don't worry them until there is something for them to know.

Answer 10

if your off on your own just plain tell them if you still live with them find a friend you can crash with and then tell them if they give you to much grief over it then go to your friends house in a few days they will either understand or they wont but either way they will accept you for you thats how it worked with me