2006-12-09 06:31:03 · 21 answers · asked by . . . nvlll . . . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yup.
And yeah, there's the whole "there's not anything wrong with it", "doesn't change who the person is", "love them for who they are" blah blah blah perspective, but--while this is all true--I feel like if those answers would help you, you wouldn't have to ask the question in the first place...
(I'm answering this question from the perspective of it being two males...cuz I'm a guy, so I wouldn't really know as much about that, but I'm sure some of what I'm about to say would apply anyway.)
Anyway, the point is, there's really no downside to having a gay best friend. Some of the perks:
You never have to worry about losing the friendship over a girl (an issue that has been screwing up friendships since the beginning of time).
You have someone who you can always honestly go to and ask how you look that day or in a certain outfit, just like you do if you have a best friend who's a heterosexual girl. It's great! (And, no, I'm not saying "the gays" all have a great fashion sense, just that your best friend is the person you can count on to honest/blunt with you, and if he's gay, he can judge much better than a straight guy could and he'd be much more willing to / expressive of his opinion. Why? Cuz he doesn't have to worry about "looking gay".)
And, just so you know, if you're worried about him making you feel "uncomfortable" or him hitting on you, most gay guys I know are actually over-precautious about doing this because it makes THEM feel awkward. Paradoxical in a sense, but two heterosexual male friends are usually more touchy-feely than two male friends where one is gay.
And in the very slim possibility that he makes you feel uncomfortable, let him know. He's your best friend; he wouldn't purposefully make you feel uncomfortable, and if he did it by accident, he'll stop.
Hooray for gay friends.
2006-12-09 14:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by foxwallow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My niece is gay and I just accept her the way that she is. Her sexual orientation is not really any of my business. I love her just the same. If you are God fearing he says not to judge so that is not your place, how you feel about the sexual part should not affect you, just be a good listener and friend it is hard for gay people because of society so just keep being their friend.
2006-12-09 14:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had sex with any of my best friends and it woudn't start just because they came clean about what they like to do in the bed.
My friendships are not based on sexuality. Why throw out several years of love and trust over something as immaterial as that. It would come as more of shock than anything.
2006-12-09 14:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure...why would that change?! They are still the same person they were 24 hours BEFORE you found out..and they were you're friend THEN!!! SO...they should STILL be your BEST friend...
A good friend will bail you out of jail...a BEST friend will be sitting next to you in the jail cell saying...MAN THAT WAS FUN...let's do that again...NEXT WEEK!!!
2006-12-09 14:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you were his or her friend before, i don't see why you wouldn't be now. i'm not really an advocate of homosexuality, but after high school, not one or two, but three of my friends came out. i had been friends with these people for 4 years and we had a solid friendship. i wasn't just going to throw that away because of their sexual preference, whether i agreed with it or not. your friend is probably old enough to make his or her own choices, and if you are a true friend, you should support them.
2006-12-09 14:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Lovely Candi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course i would still be his friend. Chances are if he really is my best friend i would already know anyways.
2006-12-09 14:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAH, i'm mean its seems alittle weird at first but you get use to it their my friend i'm not going to leave all because they like the same sex thats mean. I'll always be by their side and you should be by yours let them know that you'll be there for them.
2006-12-09 15:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lil Naruto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course.Good friends are hard top find, there sexuality is irrelevant.
2006-12-09 14:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sherzade 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter what their sexuality is it just depends on the persons feeling what f u were gay what would they feel about you? it doesnt changes anything
2006-12-09 16:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by shy-girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being guy is ok. my friends still talk to me, and some of them just found im bi
2006-12-09 14:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by death_of_faries 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋