Does the character of a man actually matter to a woman?

Question

I'm looking for serious answers here. Nothing along the lines of "duh" or "of course".

I'm just wondering, because I haven't been able to find a woman who thinks that it's important for a man to live his life with integrity. Most women that I know think that it's great when a man is unfaithful, lazy, bullying, and dishonest in general. They view him as being a "bad boy" who has "edge" and is a "challenge".

On the other hand, a man who is confident, mentally and physically healthy, a community leader, intelligent, romantic, honest, and would be a devoted husband and father, is seen as "boring" and "too nice".

Why is this? Do these women have low self-esteem and think that they don't deserve better . . . or, do men of integrity have to start being losers in order for women to appreciate them?

I look forward to your intelligent and well-thought-out answers

Answer 1

I think a man's character says alot about him. If he is a no good lazy scrub then why pay attention to him! Women who have low self esteem only pay attention to men of this caliber because that is all they believe in their mind that they can attract! I only pay attention to a man who has my best interests at heart besides his own and whio is a good man. I am a single mother of an 18 year old daughter and I have taught her not to settle for second best! If a man treats you with respect and love and is a good man then that is the one she should pay attention to. It also helps if he is confident about who he is and can provide for her as well! I also taught her that she should be able to provide for herself as well! Only women who are not taught to take care of themselves rely on a man no matter what his caliber is. That is a really sad thing.

Answer 2

I would love to meet a man with character. All the men in my life have been the 'bad boy' type that you talked about. I don't look for them. I usually find out later that they are jerks. It is not about low self esteem either. I think I have a sign on my back that reads 'if you are a loser, follow me home' I am all for integrity, personality, honorable, respectful, responsible, hard working, fun, fun loving, humorous, ... a man who will say 'honey, let me help you carry the groceries instead of 'are you almost done because the door is letting out the heat' hahaha.. somewhere out there, I have faith that there some men out there that contain those qualities. Character matters a lot. Unfortunately, I think that it takes us a lot longer to realize the truth. It is no different than men wanting trophies of beauty from their women. For instance, I am 47 years old, and most men my age are really only looking for younger women, and I seem to only attract the younger men (hence the losers with no integrity). So we all need to sit and think about our character. So how true is your integrity in character?

Answer 3

I am a type of infrequent females then. I desire a person who has integrity, cares, loves, and has recognize for others. He isn't going to stick round lengthy if I discover out he's lazy. I do not desire any individual who I desire to difference. I desire any individual who does not ought to difference. A guy who's honestly a person and no longer a take a seat-at-dwelling, drink beer, waste cash, disrespectful, cussing fool. A mood, cussing, combating (for dangerous factors), dishonest (in any variety or type), and virtually any dangerous conduct could get a person knocked from my record. That man defined to your second paragraph "On the opposite hand, a person who's constructive, mentally and bodily healthful, a group chief, smart, romantic, sincere, and dedicated to his spouse and kids, is noticeable as "uninteresting" and "too excellent". " is precisely what I am watching for. They are infrequent in which I reside and I appear ahead to assembly a person like that.

Answer 4

This is generally an issue with younger people(including myself). Don't worry, when you get older they will appreciate you, marry you, and you will have to take care of the bad guys kids.