Ok, here's the story I am 16 weeks pregnant, and it seems like every female I know is pregnant. Not including me I have 6 friends and family members that are also pregnant. I just found out that my best friend makes number six! I wanna be happy for all of them, but im not. I really feel like this should be MY time. It's my first baby and most of them already have kids. Today was the last straw for me, I know there is nothing I can do about it, and it's probably mostly my hormones, but this is making me miserable. I also think Im more upset with myself for being so selfish. Anyone else been in this boat? All I wanna do right now is cry!
2006-12-09 06:00:10 · 20 answers · asked by lindsey4706 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't blame you. But, just think about how horrible it would be if all these people were pregnant, and you weren't?? That happened to me when I was going through infertility. talk about heartache. Anyway, try to enjoy this time. being pregnant is something special and you will get special attention from everyone around you!
2006-12-09 06:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Becca 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is only horrible if u make yourself believe that it is.
Instead of worrying about how many others are stealing the show, you should be happy about your pregnancy. Many women cannot conceive and Yes - many may be pregnant - but you must remember one thing - a baby is special whether it is your first or second or third and so forth. Each baby is unique and special to its mother
You must cherish these moments you have with your unborn baby. Even the mood of the mother before birth affects the temparament of the baby.
You may have 6 friends and family members who are pregnant...but even if so many weren't, there are millions of women getting pregnant every day...that's how the population of the world has increased crossed the 1 billion mark.
However, don't reduce your baby to just another statistic by worrying about how many are going to be born in your family and friend circle.
If you tend to think of such things - distract yourself with some activity and always remember - your child is special in its own way - nothing can change that fact. So take care of urself, be positive and happy.
2006-12-09 06:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by honey007rmsas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way when my brother told me that my sister-in-law is pregnant AGAIN. I have a four year old and I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my second. Well I was only a few months along when he told me they are pregnant again with their third. They have a two year old and one year old so I felt like you. I kind of felt like it should be my time since they just had two babies. I still sometimes feel that way. I mean my nephew just turned a year in November and it's been 5 years since I've been pregnant. I don't know why I felt/feel this way but I do/did. Well, I found out that I'm having a girl..the first and only one of the five kids between us (they are having their third boy) and I'm kind of happy about that because I have a boy and I'll have the girl and they will have all boys..so I kind of feel like my baby will be special in that way being the only girl. I mean I love my nephews and all and I know I'll love this one to death too but like I said they just had a baby a year ago and I haven't in four and a half years. I blame the hormones lol. I think it makes us women crazy! Hang in there. There isn't anything that can be done. I mean try to be happy for the people around you who are also expecting. I'm excited for my brother and his wife as well and since there isnt anything I can do I've pretty much learned to deal with it.
2006-12-09 06:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*hugs*
My husband and I tried for 1 1/2 years to get pregnant. It FINALLY happened and I was so excited I called my whole family that night. I couldn't hold it in.
Then a week later I found out my sister in law was pregnant with her 3rd! UGH I was so mad I cried. I wanted to be special and all the focus be on this baby. We're due only 5 days apart. Great now the kids will always be lumped together. It made me mad for a long time.
Then I had my ultrasound, it's a boy! I then prayed she would have ANOTHER girl (the other 2 are girls). I felt so guilty for doing that. She did find out she was having a girl. So at least I get to have the first boy grand baby in the family and be the first to have someone to carry on the family name.
Don't worry you're not the only one that feels that way. It's ok to cry about it too.
2006-12-09 06:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so not qualified to answer this, since i have a penis, but you really sound like my wife did. It's totally about you right now and your hormones won't let you think otherwise - and they're RIGHT! You're not selfish, you're creating a life - that's some ****!
You have every right to feel like you want the family and friends to focus on you right now, so don't feel bad, but don't hold your breath expecting that everyone will. You and the child's father are focusing on you - if yo uhave that, be happy (and be thankful for all of the available future babysitters! - that's a goldmine you're sitting on! )
congratulations.
2006-12-09 06:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by blue-in-groove 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok. And no you are not horrible. Part of it is hormones. Get used to it Lovie, it will continue until a few weeks after the baby is born. I can understand how you want it to be your time. To get the light on you and focus, maybe express some fears or concerns or ask them what it is all like. Believe me, mommas love to share pregnancy stories, and will all unload on you. Ask for some help from experienced friends. Join some mommy websites where you can blog and such too.
2006-12-09 06:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by Hollz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, your horomones are making you feel a little more emotional than usual. think of the positive side of this situation.
you can always eat together
you have many who will understand your problems (even this one)
your kids will be buddies
etc
try hanging out with some friends or family that aren't pregnant. sure, you need a break from all the pregnacy stuff. Spend some time on your own thinking about your own pregnacy and what you want to get from it. I don't think it's horrible at all that you feel that way.
good luck
2006-12-09 06:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be thankful you are going to have a baby and dont be so emotional over this issue. Just look out for yourself. Crying wont do any good so why fret. Yep its hormonal and its happened to more than one woman. so just get over it and enjoy your pregnancy and be happy for those friends that are too. You can all get together and discuss pregnancy problems and soon you will feel that right is with the world. Good luck ..
2006-12-09 06:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend had a big wedding (300 guests)planned in July of 2003. My fiancee and I found out in early April that we were pregnant. We decided we wanted to get married A.S.A.P. because we'd always said we didn't want to have a child out of wedlock. We announced that we were getting married in a private ceremony (only family) and then having a very relaxed, casual SMALL bbq at a friend's house to celebrate. It was only a 15 to 20 guest affair and a bbq for heaven's sake!! I found out right before my wedding that my best friend was angry with me for 'stealing her thunder'. Luckily, we had a mutual friend between us who told her to grow up, we were having a small, almost non-existent celebration and that I was pregnant and that was why we were hurrying our wedding. Needless to say, she got over it, fast.
The point of my story: You cannot expect other people to put their lives on hold (especially something like a pregnancy when women are only fertile for a short window of their lives) so you can be 'the only pregnant one."
2006-12-09 06:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not horrible, it's completely understandable :) I bet your feelings will lessen as the pregnany progresses and beleive it or not you will probably appreciate it, once all the babies are born and you have each other to laugh with, complain to and a ready-made play group to help with the adjustment of being a new Mom.
All the best!
2006-12-09 06:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by halifax78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋