i dont think i can take care of her, i really want to keep her and my parents said they would be more than happy to help out but i dont only them raising my baby, what should i do???
2006-12-09 05:49:34 · 38 answers · asked by Ting Ting 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you might have seen my moms question if you havent her name is Mai
2006-12-09 05:53:11 · update #1
i dont believe in abortion
2006-12-09 05:53:49 · update #2
my mom means if i decide to keep her she will help out with her, my father wants me to keep her and hes just really excited about my babay being born
2006-12-09 05:55:24 · update #3
my boyfriend lives with us, if u have ever seen the show roseanne with darleans boyfriend david thats kinda what our family looks like except my dad is chines my mom is japanese and my boyfriend is korean and i dont have any brothers or sisters
2006-12-09 06:15:57 · update #4
You wouldn't be raising the baby, your mom would be. You cannot afford to give up your education and go to work raising your baby. Adoption is a good choice, as is abortion. They are difficult decisions yet having sex takes responsibility.
2006-12-09 05:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
There is no way that you can properly raise that baby without your parents help. If you really want to keep the baby, I'd recommend having your parents help, don't stop going to school or anything, but if one of your parents don't work, have them take care of the baby during the day and do your homework for about an hour, then raise the baby. If that doesn't work, I'd recommend giving the baby up for adoption. If the baby is adopted, I'd have a much better life I'm sure. Just make sure to keep in touch.
2006-12-09 07:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep the baby IF your parents, you, and your boyfriend all agree on the decision and are ALL willing to help you with the baby. The smart thing would have been to be more responsible in the first place though. There are teenage mothers that are great parents though so if you're mature (as mature as u can be at that age), and responsible, meaning you're not drinking or doing drugs or anything that would make you not responsible to take care of a baby, then keep the baby. Also if your parents are financially stable enough to help you support the baby. Because all of you will regret it down the road if you know in your hearts you could have kept the baby and took good care of it and didn't.
2006-12-09 06:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by InternetJunkie83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with your parents and seriously discuss what would/will happen when the baby arrives. If you keep her: what would your daily schedule be like? can you continue going to school full time? who will take care of her while you are in school? who will pay for the things she needs (babies aren't cheap!) will you be expected to work and earn money to help out? how will the situation change when you finish high school?
You also need think seriously about whether you are prepared to take on the responsibility of having a baby. Having a child means that for the next 20 years, YOU come SECOND. The child's needs come first. Are you ready to put someone else's needs before your own 24/7 for the next 20 years? You don't get to take a vacation from being a mom. Don't get me wrong -- babies/children can bring a lot of joy into your life. But being a parent is a HUGE responsibility, and should not be taken lightly.
Good luck with your decision.
2006-12-09 05:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by kittenpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom had the same reaction when I told her I'm pregnant, only I'm 20 and not living at home anymore. before you make the choice of keeping the baby or giving it up you should really think about it. Where on one hand you could be a mom and have a beautiful baby the other hand is that you HAVE to grow up and Quick!!! this child is going to need your time attention and all that you have to give. There are programs that will help out with money and dr's and all that but don't you want your child to have the very best. Also she will end up with a family of a mom and dad that are all ready grown up and ready to have kids. Your only 15 growing up isn't that great hun. And your not going to want your parnets raising your baby for you. They should have the chance to be grandparents don't you think?
2006-12-09 07:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend's daughter had a baby when she was 16. She decided to give the baby the best she could and gave him up for adoption. She was able to choose his adoptive parents and got to meet them before the baby was born. She knew there was no way she could take care of him properly since she had no job and no place to live other than at her parents. She was mature enough to know that she was not ready to give up the things she liked to take care of a baby 24/7 for the next 18 plus years. He is now 4 years old, lives with a mom and dad who love him so much, are financially stable, and can give him the experiences that the birth mom knew she could never do. Birth mom is still struggling to find herself, works low paying jobs, can't stay in a long term relationship, and lives in low income housing. Not the best scenario for a baby to be living in. Until he was 2, my friend got to see him every few months and he calls her "Grandma Kathy". Now she gets letters and pictures so she can see how he is growing, but doesn't visit him anymore per the adoption agreement. When he is old enough, he can choose to met his birth family if he wants. Adoption is a win-win situation for everyone and the one who wins the most is the baby. There are so many infertile couples who suffer every day with aching arms and hearts for a baby to love and call their own. You are so young and have so many years to find out who you are and what you want out of your life. I strongly suggest you at least make an appointment at an adoption agency just to get the facts. Then you can make an informed decision that is best for you and your baby. Good for you to believe that abortion is not an option.
2006-12-09 06:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, what to do with your pregnancy is a personal decision and ultimately your decision. It sounds like abortion is not an option as you say you "really want to keep her" and if you already know it is a "her", it's probably too late for that anyway. Read up about adoption - it really can be a wonderful thing. There are open adoptions that would let you be involved in the baby's life that you could consider. Think about what your life and the baby's life will be like and ask yourself what you think is best for everyone.
2006-12-09 06:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by MD2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 9 months - well maybe more like 6 or 7 - to educate yourself, and to take the steps necessary to be a parent. Take some parenting classes; read some informational books; write a long term plan for how you are going to finish school.
If you want to keep your baby, then that is your right. But take these few months to make yourself responsible and mature enough to be a good mom!
2006-12-09 05:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how can you raise this child if you are a child yourself? Adoption is an excellent alternative. You will be giving a couple who maybe can not have a baby on their own a chance to be parents. And you can always send letters. And when you are older and stable and the child is older, you may start a relationship with them. Dont give up your education. Raising a baby is very difficult. Also I hope you will wait till your older to messing with "adult" situations. Good luck and all the best.
2006-12-09 05:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by frha75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel strongly about keeping her then you could accept help from your parents. You don't have to let them have control, and if they've already offered to help, I'm sure they'll back you up. Just let them know that you feel strongly about this being your child, you don't want them to take over, but you know that you're going to need their help. Adoption isn't a bad way to go if you truly feel that you won't be able to take care of the baby. There are lots of people out there that would love to have a baby girl of thier own. This is a really difficult decision, and I wish you the best.
2006-12-09 05:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by pjt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a major decision to make and it is going to affect 4 other people in your life as well as you. Take my word on this having a child at such a young age means your family bearing the majority of the responsibility. It means arguements and frustration for years to come because resentments build between you and the father because you want to be out with friends but your child needs you and he (your b/f) wants to do his thing but he has to work. Your parents will demand a great deal of things from you because they are spending all of their time and money raising your child and you will come to resent your parents and your child.
You are too young. You should be able to enjoy your youth not have to start working all the time and be tied down because of your child.
Do the right thing and give your chold up for adoption not only will you guarentee a bettr life for that child but you will also be making someone who can't have achild very happy.
2006-12-09 08:49:45 · answer #11 · answered by thespababe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋