I've been looking at gay porn, playing with toys, having fantasies, and desires. The sex part really turns me on. I don't never look at other men in public and think they look nice or feel any attraction but I love to watch gay porn. I'm very attracted to women also, My wife and I have great sex. I've been looking at the gay porn and having fantasies with men(never no one I see or know,usually my fantasy don't have a face at all) for about 10 years now. Sometimes I like to dress in my wifes undergarments when no ones home and put on her makeup. I love my wife and kids and don't want to leave them but I can't get this stuff out of my head. I'm I just curious or are these feelings real?
2006-12-09 05:40:52 · 8 answers · asked by queenkeikei_2 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Have you thought that you might be bi-sexual.
If you told your wife would she be upset/angry....I ask because you say you have great sex, ever thought about asking her to play the "Guy" role, with a strap on.
Even better sex might evolve, and you wouldn't have to be ashamed.
2006-12-09 05:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Shi. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are real, there is no such thigs as unreal feelings. But if your fantasies doesnt bother your marrigae or your life you dont have to stop them. May be this fantasies make your life sex more interesting. Now, if you are unhappy that would be different. cross dresser not always are gay. Is a form of fantasy that many times the wife accepts.In the end may be you are bisexual, but to know better why dont you ask counseling?this is an important issue to ask online
2006-12-09 13:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by gracebinder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, you're bisexual. It's ok and if u still love ur wife then there is no reason this has to affect your family. The problem seems to be that you are having problems of guilt im guessing about having these desires and hiding them from your friends and family. Since you're married you will never be able to act on these urges and its no different than wanting to have sex with another woman. Just realize that u love ur family anough that these urges wont lead to you cheating on your wife.
2006-12-09 13:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by defenderof thehumanright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this clear.... you're looking at porn, cross dressing, playing with toys, and fantasizing about cock... and you want to know if it is real? What is the other option, that it is all an elaborate dream? You've wandered into a paralell dimension? You hallucinated the whole thing? It was really your wacky identical twin cousin from England?
Yes Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. And if you were him, you would be one kinky bisexual Santa Claus.
You need to find a way to integrate your bisexuality into your marriage. If you love your wife, then by all means, don't leave her. But you cant just keep with this cycle of shame, guilt, and denial. Eventually she is gonna find out and go postal.
Start small, tell her you want to get more kinky in the bedroom and see what she says. You can incorporate your interest in toys, porn, and cross dressing into sex with your wife provided she is game and you are honest. You'll never know until you ask. I know tons of women who peg their boyfriends (f*ck them in the behind with a strap on) and as far as fetishes go, cross dressing is waaaaaayyy tame.
However I worry that you might need professional help to deal with your issues of guilt and shame. I mean, I can tell you that I think it is just fine and normal to be bi and kinky, but obviously a stranger on a website is not going to make you really believe that. But I think it bears spelling out that I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You just need to find a way to break down these walls around who you are. Its not healthy to segment ourselves off, to only enjoy certain parts of ourselves in shame or secret. And its not physically or emotionally healthy for you to be straining to hear the front door or footsteps on the stairs every time you engage in enjoyable behavior. You're going to raise your blood pressure through the roof!
Find ways to break down your walls and integrate these elements (slowly but surely) into your life with your wife. See a therapist. Read up on kink (start with some Savagelove columns or the book "Savage Love: Straight Answers from America's Most Popular Sex Columnist" by Dan Savage). And stop beating yourself up over it, you're really ok.
2006-12-09 18:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other than the dressing up in women's clothes, what you have described to us is the classical bisexual male. Many bisexual guys do not act on their urges for men outrightly, but they DO look at gay pornography, have fantasies about men, and do have urges for males that don't go away. And yes, many, if not most, do not stare at other men or make blatant sexual moves towards them. Most people never realize that these bisexual guys are anything but straight. Our society uses the term "gay" too much when talking about non-straight male sexuality; not all man-on-man attraction for men is "gay." If anything, it is probably bisexual.
2006-12-09 15:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I play with married men from time to time who are just like you. They are happily married and I am as well. So we meet and have wonderful no strings sex and go about our business. It's great. Check into it....Good Luck....Kevin
2006-12-09 17:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by sckreet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to answer you own question.....
you have asked this 5 times now, if you cant let other people answer your own question,and you keep asking it then maybe your a homosexual...
seek help please
2006-12-09 15:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These feelings aren't real. They are demonics. I'm sorry to tell that only God can help you get out of the situation.
2006-12-09 13:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋