Let me explain why.....last night out of no where my husband, who is hetrosexual ask me to use my vibartor on him. I found this really odd coming fromhim bacease after 11 years with him I he has always said that his back door was for exits only. After talking with him, he still feels the same way, and would never dream of doing anything with another man. But he said he found that using a vibartor he could have a better orgasm. He said he tried it once on himself and it was one of the best orgasms he has ever had, and no wants me to share in it with him. I really don't think he is turning homosexual, but is this really true, and what would make him think about something like this? Should I just help him with this, because I could not bring myself to do anything last night. I am I overreacting for nothing. I am a bit confused how to proceed with this. If anyone has some advice that could be helpful please share. HELP ME!!!
2006-12-09 05:33:25 · 18 answers · asked by jstme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to look further at anything else unusual in his character before you start thinking "other things."
Otherwise, it could be that maybe your Husband is curious in his own mind. Desn't mean you should assume that maybe he is Homosexual! That would be jumping to conclusions!
If he sincerely loves you, then he is only wanting you to "pleasure" him more and I think ideas like this could make a deeper relationship for you both!
I think you should go on your gut feelings.
I agree that you are overracting, bcause sounds to me by the way you explain, that he loves you and wants more affection. I wouldn't turn him away!
Maybe it is touchy with you about the Vibrator and only you can discuss this further with your Husband., which you should.
Be glad he went to you about this! Shows he cares and loves you!
keep talking with him ok?
2006-12-09 05:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it too much. My husband and I experimented with a vibrator on him and he too found it erotic. It's not something we do all the time, but sometimes something a little different stirs things up. Be glad he felt open enough to you to share this with you and if you are really insecure just let him know how you feel. After 11 years he could just be looking for something other than the same old, same old. Find new ways together to do things, you never know what you can come up with!
2006-12-09 05:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to be overly concerned. I think he is telling you like it is, he has found a way to have more intensity and he just wants to share it with you. Try to have a sense of adventure with this I'm sure it seems awkward but that is only because it's new. Just lay down some ground rules for him like, you want to enjoy this as much as he does so that means it can't always be done this one way (you know what I mean) For some men it is true that vibrator will increase intensity but others say it hurts. As far as what made him think of it, well sometimes you just wonder about things and then you try it. Hope this helps.
2006-12-09 05:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by tpbthigb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS NOT GOING GAY ON YOU !!!! HE simply sounds as if hes getting bored.... ttry something other than the vibrator on him first. Use ice in your mouth for oral sex or lotions that give off heat something like that. Maybe even massageing the testicles while giving oral sex.. He is probaly looking for something arousaling different. Give the guy something different and new.. He is okay and so are you..Goodness its just a part of sex. and there is NO SHAME in wanting to experiment with something different. If it wasnt made for using we wouldnt use it. there is no shame when a woman pulls out her vibrator....come on folks??? give the guy a break.....If it was a woman you would all be saying" kooollllll" Cut him slack be comfortable and tell him how you feel!!! Be open !! Talk about it !!! Talk goes along way with this kind of stuff.....
2006-12-09 05:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by johnnysgirl929 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of nerve endings around the exhaust port. Sometimes a little stimulation there WILL help a guy out. Also try a little pressure inward it the bottom of the ole jewel sac. Wouldn't worry about him going for other men. There are other signs that signal that. Ask him to do something for you that is special. G
2006-12-09 05:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by glencosalsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It stimulates the prostate gland. He will like it. If you have been married for 11 years he probably has not changed his sexual orientation. Maybe he just wants to try something different. Talk about it and share your concerns. I think you are being irrational, why would you think he would suddenly become homosexual? If you can talk about experimenting, then you should be able to discuss this. Good luck.
2006-12-09 05:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reverse the roles if you said to him that a vibrator gets you of better than him alone, would his pride be hurt or would he be confused? I think yes. Damn I would kind of take that like him saying that you can't make him orgasm like a vibrator can, that would make you think. Sorry but your man is starting to sound a little sweet there, pay close attention to his actions from now on he might be going south.
2006-12-09 05:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by Great one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though he is sexually obsessed. I suppose he is getting into the kinky stuff little by little and figures if you help him with this then he can lead you into other things that become even more bazarre. Maybe though it is just a one time thing. One never knows but one thing seems certain. He is motivated by sexual pleasure derived from any form in which he can get it and desires you to be a part of it with him. The decision is yours as to whether you want to be a part of it or not.
2006-12-09 05:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The previous responses about stimulating the prostate are correct. He probably just heard about it or read it somewhere, I've heard it discussed on one of those cable sex shows. I've heard it is an amazing experience but never tried it myself. Research it yourself, you'll see it's true. After 11 years, no one knows him better than you.
2006-12-09 09:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband can have a intercourse dependancy. Many folks have a top intercourse force, however three occasions an afternoon, seven days every week feels like a concern. When does he paintings at incomes a residing?
2016-09-03 09:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by bachinski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋