I do. I feel like Napoleon Dynamite's protege. I want to have a baby so bad and I can't. My husband probably has the worst sperm in the world, and the Army acts like a bunch of Valley Biatches screening Prissy Club members on whom they decide to assist by Tricare for reproductive assistance. The red tape is unbeleivable. We do have a girl after many years of trying and miscarriages due to his messed up sperm, and we just had another miscarriage.
I want to die so bad. All I see is pregnant women everywhere. Military bases are never in short supply of pregnant women because it's so easy for them all I guess. All my husband's soldiers wives are pregnant, one even has a 3 month old and is 2 months pregnant!! I have to go to a Christmas party on the 17th for his Unit, and I HAVE to go if I did not it wouldn't be proper. I have to see them all. I really feel like a loser. I want to just bury my head like an ostrich and die.
2006-12-09 05:31:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
HERE WE GO AGAIN!!!!!!!!!
How dare you feel the need to compete. Is this what the world has become????? now we compete to have children, give me a damn break. You should thank god you have your health! and your hubby doesn't have his legs blown off in the war.
Let me just fill you in on a little something. My best friends wife has 2 kids, and she "pretends" to be sooooooo happy when we're all together of course, but, when I talk to my friend alone, he tells me his wife is so miserable, and always says how much time her kids take from her, she can't go anywhere, travel, she is up all night, kids whining, crying, crapping all over the place, toys all over, diapers all over, etc etc etc. So when you look at all these "happy" women, don't assume just because on the surface they look happy they are. Go to the dumb party with your head up high, not in the sand, you're actually in a better position than them, trust me. I've noticed that women like to make other women insecure, and make them feel like their missing out on something, however when you look at the root of the matter, MISERY LIKES COMPANY, REMEMBER THIS. Be happy for what you have in life, not what you don't have!!!!
Merry Xmas
2006-12-09 05:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel! My husband is in the Air Force and Tricare is so strict!! I have heard that they won't pay for much other than fertility medicine, but anything beyond that is your problem. Don't ya love how they take such good care of their military families? LOL
I also just had a miscarriage and I am SO sick of being surrounded by all these pregnant women! My neighbors on both sides of me are pregnant and I'm always seeing homes decorated with "Congratulations!", "It's a Boy!", or "It's a Girl!" when I'm driving through housing. It seems like most of these women got pregnant at the drop of a hat....half of the ones I know didn't want to be pregnant in the first place! And get this, my neighbors have told me that they "feel sorry" for me because I'm having a hard time getting pregnant.
I also HAVE to go to a graduation for one of my husband's troops and a Christmas party for my husband's flight....and most of these people probably think that I'm still pregnant. Oh boy, it should be interesting!
Anyway, just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.
2006-12-09 05:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by BonitaFrita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. We have been trying for 3 years and have NO children. At least you have your daughter, be thankful for that. We have a sperm issue as well, we have been told ivf is our only hope. Our insurance that we pay so much for won't cover a single penny of it! So, be thankful for what you have!
2006-12-09 16:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by miss_fred 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound harsh or mean...but you do have a little girl! And although you want more...maybe you were only meant to have one RIGHT now!! I thought I couldn't have children...because I had several miscarriages...BUT now...I'm looking forward to the 3 yr old..starting school in 2 yrs so that I can go back to work!! Your biological clock seems to be chiming big time...but just think...when YOU'RE ready IT will happen...just be patient and if you EVER want to borrow one of my sons...(just kidding!) THey are the poster children for ONE children families!!! THe two of them together...makes me want to put my head in the sand...Hug your daughter and NEVER forget that she is a GIFT!!! Just press on and enjoy her...she's only gonna be little for a little while..TRUST ME..mine is almost 17 and she drives me NUTS!!
2006-12-09 05:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel so bad, your time will come. Dont blame your husband, it could be something wrong with you as well. God will bless you with a baby when the time is right. He knows best. You are not a loser.
2006-12-09 05:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what makes you think its his sperm. the problem could be you.hope you feel better now that its off your chest. your lucky that tricare is trying to help. my husband and i were told no. hes navy
2006-12-09 05:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you are having this problem. I wish you all the luck in the world and will pray for you to concieve.
2006-12-09 05:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by RRE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adopt.
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-09 05:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by * ♥ * ♥ W ♥ * ♥ * 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel the same...
2006-12-09 06:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋