4 yrs ago a good friend gave me a necklace ($100) for Christmas recently she told me that she has never seen it on me and asked if she could have it back. I was offended, hurt and insulted. How crude and rude was that??
2006-12-09 05:28:01 · 11 answers · asked by Donna D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh my gosh! That is rather unusual now isn't it!
It really depends on what kind of relationship you have though. If it was me with some of my friends who I'm very casual with and they asked me that, I might consider returning it if they had a good reason or need for it, or if they'd accept it as this years Christmas present!!! You should ask her why she wants it back, other than the fact that you're not wearing it. I've gotten clothing items as gifts that I haven't wore a lot, but they still mean a lot to me because they were a gift from that person. You should for sure ask her why she wants it back! Even if you have a very relaxed, casual relationship with your friend, that's still kind of rude for her to do that unless she has a very good reason!
Please ask her and post more details about it in your question, or email me even! So strange!
*Try asking her for the gift you gave her back when she gave you the necklace, and see what she says! Good luck.
2006-12-09 05:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by DustInCarroll 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, she shouldn't ask for a gift back because that's tacky. i've bought gifts for my friends before and i haven't seen them wear some of 'em even one time, but i NEVER ask for them back because those are gifts to them and when you take them away, you're being just as bad as them not wearing the gift. when you're around your friend, wear the gifts she gives you, even if you don't like them. the reason why is because people take time out of their day and they think about you and buy you something, and like the old saying, "it's the thought that counts." wear what she got you. but in this case, she's wanting it back. tell her that you love what she got you but that you let your other friend or a sister borrow it and they didn't return it.
2006-12-09 05:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was really proud of being able to afford such an expensive gift for you for Christmas and she really liked when she bought it for you.
By her never seeing you wearing it could be hurting her feelings making her think you did not like or appreciate the gift. It might her way of saying to you that it really hurts her feelings she never sees you wearing it.
2006-12-09 05:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by JUAN FRAN$$$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don think you should give anything back to her if she gave it to you as a Christmas gift then it is your problem if your choose to wear it or not. I guess she didnt really meant to give it to you after all, at least not if shes asking for it, but personally if a friend did/say that to me I would not give anything back, it was given to you and that it!!
2006-12-09 05:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Juliet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Equal. If you are fats, you comprehend it...you can also no longer recognize that your household's bizarre, above all if you're too, in order that might look extra offensive(I can kick my puppy, however you are not able to!). Bottom line, folks take offense at what they prefer and also you remark on what you prefer...simply prefer your phrases and your fights cautiously!
2016-09-03 09:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by bachinski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have worded it differently. But if you don't like it you should go ahead and tell her and let her have it. But be nice and tell her that it just didn't seem to match any of the outfits that you wear and that you really appreciated the gift and the thought that she put into it.
2006-12-09 05:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats very rude!! ur "friend" should of never done that! and 2 b 4 yeas ago and juss now bring it up is stupid!! but dont let it get 2 u!! she might juss b jealous of u or something..or she might juss need the money right now. who knows?
2006-12-09 05:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you never where it then why does it matter. She spent alot of money on it for it just to get dusty. Give it to her or start whering it.
2006-12-09 05:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you give a gift to someone there are no conditions attached to it. You can or cannot wear it as often as you like and she cannot have it back.
She sounds like an idiot!
2006-12-09 05:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by Chatty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it was gift and a gift shouldn't b asked for back!! Even if u didn't wear it or she see u wear it...
2006-12-09 06:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋