It is hard to show my husband that i love him because i had a bad child hood.What can i do i don't want to loose him.I do love him but sometimes have a hard time showing it.My child hood as well as my adult hood was hard for me.I don't know what to talk about i feel angry at times.I take it out on my kids and my husband i pray and ask for a change but i don't know if i would ever change and i need help.
2006-12-09 04:51:02 · 7 answers · asked by school_chili_blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know how you feel . i had scarrs in my own life i had to be healed of. did you ever think of counselling? you have alot of unresolved inner conflict. also if you were not accustomed to love as a child then that would have a great affect on you.it feels uncomfortable when you have to experience it.i had to grow into the life of love and the more you say it and practice it , then it will get easier. just take small steps and begin to hug and speak loving things each time you get an opportunity.also my pastor prayed so much for me because my scarrs were so deep.ask god to help you and heal you of your scarrs and look to him for the answer.there is a number i called alot for prayer and they are very good people who care and listen. it is a 24 hour line1-330-929-5010
2006-12-09 05:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into counseling. Don't continue to mistreat your husband and kids. He will get tired of it and leave you, and probably want the kids too. You have no right to take your past out on your kids. Whatever happened in the past is over and done with. You are now an adult and are responsible for your own actions. Alot of people suffer abuse when they are kids, and they don't use it as an excuse the rest of their lives. I don't mean to be harsh, but grow up and take some responsibility.
2006-12-09 12:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Yes things that happened in your childhood can definitely make things good or bad for you depending on how you were treated.Have you ever watched Dr. Phil, and how he talks about not letting your past become your future. I wasn't treated very good as a child & now I have roadblocks & setbacks that I must struggle against everyday, but I have to. You can't let the bad stuff that was forced on you in childhood that's still in your head have the last word..You have to fight back, push back, stand up for yourself...because if you don't it can ruin your life & your marriage & your relationships with your husband & children...and please don't let that happen! Get counseling, talk to God, do what ever it takes to get the life that you truly deserve...one that you've choosen for yourself- not one that was choosen by someone else many years ago..ok? ....wishing the best for you...bye bye
2006-12-09 14:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your past is just that, your past. Move forward. If you cannot do it alone, seek a good counselor who will help you do that. You don't want to ruin your future because of your past, so get going. Ask your pastor or look in the phone book for counseling services. Many are free or low cost. God Bless you for your efforts.
2006-12-09 13:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down, and talk to him. Tell him what you are feeling and what happend in your life, come clean with him. You also may want to get some couples counselling, or just sit down with your preacher and husband and vent. But let your husband know why you are acting that way.
2006-12-09 12:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by quileter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sound like you been very abuse in your life and it sound like you have mood swings from being up and happy to being down and depress and you think a lot about your past and what happen to you as a child.so what i suggest is for you to go and seek council and explain to them how you feel and what they can do to help you there is a lot of places out there that goes on a sliding scale payment plan if i were you i would really consider this very serious.
2006-12-09 12:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well start telling him your feelings. Or go to therpy just be more open on how you feel
2006-12-09 12:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋