2006-12-09 04:47:27 · 40 answers · asked by starxxgirl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Not if you're ready to have one. But 20 seems like a good age to start having children.
2006-12-09 04:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Princess 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm. Well are you financially stable? Do you own a car? Do you have a job? Do you have a boyfriend? Do you have patience? Do you party? Drink do drugs?
If you have the money and are a responsible adult I dont see why it is too young. I had my daughter at 21. I also don't like to drink or go out partying. When you have a child that kind of party life stops. Are you ready to devote every second to a newborn child. Diapers puke drool and all the other unmentioned tasks. It is a huge responsibilty to bring a child into the world and should be well thought through. do you and your boyfriend/husband get along and does he want to have a baby? These are all things u must take into consideration. Doctor bills and the birth of the child add up quickly. Have you owned a puppy? If you can't handle that im almost positive you cant handle an infant. It is a life changing experience. But if you have all your ducks in a row I dont see any problem having a child at the age of 20. Who wants to be old and grey when their kid is 20 anyways. Good luck and think responsibly.
2006-12-09 04:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by silki_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm my mother had me when she was 20 going on 21 and had my brother the next year 21 going on 22. My mom said we were some great kids lol. So you have to take that into consideration as well. Some people get the chance to raise some nice kids, which would make it a BIT easier for them. But if you have some rotten kids then it will be harder >.< . I, myself am 20 currently and had a miscarriage over the summer. I thought I was still pregnant because my stomache still grew. I looked 3-4 months when I had a ultrasound to show nothing was there anymore. 20 isn't too young. It depends on the mind frame of the woman and her maturity level when it comes to the situation of having a baby.
2006-12-09 05:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by ~MaMi*DriA~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no right or wrong answer to this question. I had my first child when I was 19 and at 26 I now have three beautiful children and no regrets.
If you are thinking about having a child first consider these factors.
Are you in a stable committed relationship?
Are you mature enough to accept the enormous responsibilities of raising a child?
Are you aware of the sacrifices and hardships involved?
Do you have a good support team? (Parents, friends, partner)
Are you financially able to support a child?
Physically at 20 you can have a child, but emotionally that entirely depends on you and your partner. Children are a beautiful gift but they are also alot of work and once you have one it's not that easy to change your mind. So just be sure that you really want one and you should be ready.
Best wishes and good luck!
2006-12-09 06:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cannuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no 20 is the age at which you should start to really find the guy the man who will be your husband for the rest of your life.
20 is the age that you and him should start a bank account just for a baby once you have enough money in the bank to buy all the baby things that would be needed for twins for 6 months. then you and your husband should stop and think will we be good parents . do we even know what a parent does. how much does a baby cost . maybe we should take the money and invest it in ........ or maybe we should travel or buy a car.
once you have finished with all of that if you have not spent the money not found yourselves in disagreement about this baby then you should follow through with the actions needed to make most babies. you should however ask the manufacturer of the babies if you are suitable for a baby and if so then ask the manufacturer to send you one. if the manufacturer of babies does not send you one at that time understand this company has been in business a long time and they know what there doing .
hope i was of some help
2006-12-09 05:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe I was too young when i had mine when I was 18. I think it is best to have a child when you are ready. Such as having the money to take care of a baby and also having patience and responsibility. Having a baby is no joke. Especially taking care of a newborn the first year will wear you out. Anyways if you have husband and a family that will support you then I would say go ahead and have a baby just make sure you stay in school.
2006-12-09 04:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 20 when I had my first, and I love her to death, but to tell you the truth, as much as I thought I was ready, I really wasn't. I still had a lot of growing up to do. I mean, at 20 you still aren't legally able to drink, and when you turn 21 and have a kid you start thinking about all your friends who are out having a good time and things like that. I would say wait, and enojoy your early 20's.
2006-12-09 04:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Wizard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person. This is from Dr Phil's website:
Questions Your Unborn Child Might Ask
Wondering if you're ready to have a baby? There are many questions that couples need to ask themselves before becoming parents. Ever wonder what your unborn child might want to ask? Dr. Phil provides some questions from the unborn child's point of view.
What is your motive? Why do you want to have me?
Look at your answers. Are they all about satisfying your needs? Or do they take my needs into account?
Why would I want to be in your family?
Do you want to have me just so that you can give me a job — to save your marriage, make your spouse settle down, or have someone who will love you, etc.? Do you think it's fair to give me a job before I'm even born?
Does my other parent want me as much as you do? Or am I going to strain the family in a way that will make you regret having me? Will you resent your spouse for having me?
What are your qualifications? Are you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually stable enough to have me?
Is the family already struggling to provide the emotional and financial needs of the children who are already here? Would I diminish the quality of life for them?
I will say I am glad I wait until now (I'm 27) to have a baby. I finished college and we make enough money so I don't have to work fulltime. Kids are also expensive. Do you have the money to support a child or will you have to depend on the gov't to help you. What about the man you want to be the father? What is his opinion.
2006-12-09 04:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by oz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your situation. I'm 20, 21 weeks pregnant, and it changed my whole life. I was living with my bf, in college, working, and we were talking about getting married. He left when I told him I was pregnant. I got fired for missing so much work (morning sickness) and moved back in with my parents. I'm still in school and I'll continue until I have the baby, but I wish I had finished before getting pregnant. There's a lot of things to think about before having a kid, but it's up to each person whether they're ready or not.
2006-12-10 06:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that depends on your life situation. I technically had my child when I was 20 years old (I was one month away from turning 21 though). However, I got married when I turned 18, and waited a couple years before deciding to try and get pregnant. Now we are on our fifth anniversary, and we are expecting our second child next June. Some might say it is too young... but it was right for us. But again.... we are married.... and we waited for a while and then made a decision together.
2006-12-09 04:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by KSmom24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is really a age that is too young besides like 14. it depends on the people that are having the baby. even if ur 30 u can be too young to have a child. it all depends on maturaty and weather u can handle taking care of a kid. gud luck!
2006-12-09 04:57:51 · answer #11 · answered by sara ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋