Okay, well, let's start with my friend, or so I thought. He's always been the quiet type, with few friends besides myself and another girl. But lately, he's found a new hobby that I can't stand. The hobby is tormenting me until I cry. Basically he lists off all my faults, and mocks me. Yesterday, I got smacked in the head with a dodgeball and fell over, and my ear started bleeding. He yelled at me for whining about it, which only made me cry, which made him mock me.
But that's only problem number one. The second problem is my ex-boyfriend. He's taken to harrassing one of my other guy friends because of his sexuality. My ex is extremely narrow-minded, and just can't stand my friend for being gay. I can't believe I ever dated him!!!
How can I overcome my problems with my tormentor, AND help my friend with the problems caused by my ex?
2006-12-09 04:30:55 · 11 answers · asked by Hayley L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just another detail; I never associate with my ex. I only comfort my friend, but I feel I must help him out.
2006-12-09 04:36:48 · update #1
He is sadistic for some reason. Best Advice. Get away ! Ditch him or atleast forget him for the time being. Maybe someone is influencing him to behave that way. Give him some room for improvement.If he does not, well, anyway, you don't need a jerk around u. Keep Happy and find a better guy.
As for your friend, you can stand with him to face your ex and ask him to back off.
In fact, I think I can see a connection between your ex bugging ur friend and your BF bugging you. Seems like both are working together. Either way, give space to both of them, one by ignoring and the other by facing him.
2006-12-09 04:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by HurryHarry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the tormentor an ex friend. Forget this guy. He sounds like a big boob. Either that, or spell out your problem to him. Maybe he will understand.
The second problem is a little easier. Wait. The ex boyfriend will go away. Just wait it out, and keep your friend from retaliation.
2006-12-09 04:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters - get some new friends!!! As for the tormentor and the ex - stay the heck away from both of them. As for your gay friend - he needs you to stand up for him. It's a hard enough place in the world for a homosexual - they need the love and support of friends and family. Your ex isn't just narrow-minded, he's homo-phobic. Don't let him get away with it.
2006-12-09 04:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that must suck, well your so called friend who torments you has to be around you to do so. Start with staying away from him as much as possible. Tell him you will not have anything to do with for the way he treats you and say no more to him, ever. TEll your other friend to stay away from your ex as much as he can. This two creeps are in need of a couple of a&*ss whoopings. Or they need to grow up. Either way your situation calls for some action, tell everyone about them and there behavior , other friends, teachers, parents, the word will get around sooner or later. Good luck kiddo.
2006-12-09 04:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your tormentor can be overcomed by developing thick skin. I used to be like you and hate to be mocked and made fun of. Now I fight my fear with humor. I just start telling myself I don't care and just come back at them with something give it a shot. About your ex.....I would just stick up for your friend and say what are you offended because you aren't his type.....if he is so sure of himself......truthfully he is doing it because he is insecure!
2006-12-09 04:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please stop hanging out with your tormentor. He's not your friend for disturbing and physically hurting you. He may be experiencing some problems if his behaviour has changed drastically. Try to find out about his problems and help him in other ways, eg. talk to his parents, other friends etc.
As for your ex-bf, you can just ignore him, and defend your friend instead. Afterall, you can't blame yourself for your ex's stupidity and ignorance. (Though lots of people can't accept gay people yet)
2006-12-09 04:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by vintageprincess72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys r jerks man. but yeah... with your friend who torments u, tell him that u really hate it. try your best to do it in a stern serious voice and tell him that if he wants to stay friends with u, that he NEEDS to stop acting like that. and with your gay friend, he probably knows that the ex is a jerk so... maybe u should talk to your ex and tell him that he is bein a loser by thinking so badly on gay people. your ex shouldn't be concerened about it honestly. tell him to get his own frekin business! hope this helps...
2006-12-09 04:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by gemgirl28@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy who makes you cry is NOT your friend. He is an idiot. You need to tell your teacher right away about his harassment. Next...do not talk to your ex anymore! Avoid him like the plague.
2006-12-09 04:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by CM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-09 04:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by lala89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋