I used to have a lovely smile. I'm on my way to losing my teeth and my husband won't help me. I'm a stay-at-home mother to 3 sons and whenever I bring this topic up he says for me to GET A JOB so I can pay for dental work. How can I do that AND raise kids? It makes me cry a lot because he doesn't seem to give a damn. Just because he is English doesn't mean I want to look like that too...if you get my drift. Please forgive me if I insult any Brits reading this but I've just had it with him.
2006-12-09 04:17:55 · 15 answers · asked by Suzanne S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
feel ya sis.
2006-12-09 04:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's COLD!
He's supposed to have health and Dental coverage for you!!!!!
Do what I did, take part of his advice and get a part time job, and if your kids are young, see if a relative can babysit while you work. Work to get your self-esteem and confidence up, my Dear! You will feel better about yourself, BELIEVE ME, and you will be able to SOON stand up to your husband!!! Don't take the crap from him, ok? He's supposed to provide for you and your children! What a Scoundrel!
If he sees you crying, then he's WON, so do something for you, take a class or a course, and SHOW him just who you are! You both are equal!
If he doesn't change, then this way once you get working you can eventually support yourself and your kids and just find someone else who would care!
It's not the Nationality, it's the person him/herself who doesn't care about Hygiene!
I have a hint, also, there is a wonderful program that Doctors of all kinds will accept, and it's called "Care Credit". You have to inquire but it's great, you can get your Dental care needs and make pymts. on the plan.
I have this program through a Veterinarian and is the only way I can pay for my pets in any emergencies. It's the same with medical Doctors. Just go to carecredit.com to get the information.
Best Wishes and dump the man if he doesn't care about you and the kids as a family!
2006-12-09 04:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say fix your teeth and leave him. I don't like that selfish attitude he has. It's so insensitive, he needs to listen to you, and understand what you mean. If you both agreed on you staying home with the kids then he's not being very reasonable. Not to mention that day care can cost more than you could make, depending on what you do for work. depending on your dental problem, if he has insurance you can have some work done for low cost. When I went to get my wisdom teeth out the dentist said it would cost me 350 for one wisdom tooth, so I called a dental surgeon, and he said all I had to pay was the 15 co pay, and he did it right. So look around for a good dentist, create a savings account, and also there's a company that offers loans to cover these costs, it's called http://www.carecredit.com/. many dentists may offer payment plans for this too.
2006-12-09 04:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's messed up. I would just make me an appt. get in started and if its a job he says you need. Well then honey, I would get up and dressed before him and leave. Now, he is raising the children. Oh, Yeah how is he supported to go to work, when has the children? do you give a dam? Do it, just go to the Dentist and get on a payment plan. If your family makes less than, you all may qualify for help though the state. Medical/Medicaid. Look into it. But do something for your self and don't let any say you cant do something for you. You can do any thing when you set your mind to it and you will find a way.So stop with the talk and start with some action.
2006-12-09 04:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age old dilemma of to work or not! I hear you. It is a confusing thing. What is best for your family and for you. If you aren't happy staying at home then you are not as good for your kids. I don't know how old your kids are but if one or more is in school consider a part time job or work the night shift part time when your husband is home. If you are working he needs to pitch in too! Have you considered babysitting other kids while home with yours? That way you get money and some socialization for your kids. Hang in there girl!
2006-12-09 04:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Laurie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for the great laugh! I understand your problem though. Still the problem isn't that you have kids. The problem is that you don't know how to juggle the kids and a job. There are tons of VERY happy Moms that do this. Start asking questions! Plus your life will be more rewarding. The extra $'s will be a bonus too. Just remember to inform your husband that the priority of your working is to fix your teeth! After that is to get your car fixed up, after that, bikini waxing, after that, a boob job, after that.... oh I'm sorry my mind was wandering.
2006-12-09 04:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband doesn't make enough money call a few churches tell them the prob sometimes they will help, if he does make enough then his money is yours check with a few dentist see how much its going to cost and scape money from gro are any other place you can scrape from ,till you have enough are just babysit another child saving the money and if he doesn't care that much about you get a divorce the child support will help you get your smile and a job and a happier life.
2006-12-09 04:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you all don't have the extra money for cosmetic dental work maybe you can earn a little extra when he is home so that someone can be there for the kids. There are lots of things that you can do. You should check into it.
2006-12-09 04:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. Our appearance is very closely tied to our self esteem.
Maybe you could ask a male friend or family member to talk to him about this. He may just need to realize that it isn't just you being 'picky' about your looks. If he knows others are noticing your distress about your looks it might open up his attitude.
Most dental care providers offer payment plans which can be very helpful. After all, your new pretty smile will be good advertisement for them....right?
2006-12-09 04:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are frustrated and hurt because your husband does not understand. You need to be happy with your inner beauty to allow your outer beauty to shine. It may be hard because you are insecure of your smile. Does your hubby have you on his insurance? Also, there might be a clinic in your area that will offer free emergency dental. Don't give up your inner smile.
2006-12-09 04:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by Nut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also have 3 sons,you can get a job you just have to have someone keep your kids,get some help,you are ruining your self esteem as long as you are not doing anything to make you better your self,as long as you are at home your husband don't have to worry about you.there is no way in hell i will loose my teeth because my husband is controlling everything.pick yourself up,the more you do for yourself the better off you will be.
2006-12-09 04:31:07 · answer #11 · answered by cool mom32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋