what should i do help!!! We lost track of time. We never get time for ourselves and when we did they poped in. Our kids are 10 and 5 and 3 now they are always asking us about what we were doing and my mother-in law hasn't talked to us even though it was only thursday. HELP!!
2006-12-09 04:12:39 · 28 answers · asked by boyconfused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just tell the kids that it was something special that happens only between moms and dads.
Your mother-in-law will get over it.
Put a lock on your bedroom door.
2006-12-09 04:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by hart2hart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Your husband should apologize to his mother for embarrassing her. Yes, it's not really your fault, it was an accident and she probably should not have been walking into your house without knocking first, but your husband should extend the olive branch (keeping all other extendable parts of his body she's already seen under clothing!). I'm assuming she's just embarrassed. If she has other issues, then there's nothing you can do about that. So apologize and then the ball is in her court.
2. Your kids. Your ten year old is old enough to have at least an inkling about sex. For that child, I would be pretty matter of fact and say that "Mommy and Daddy were making love and it is supposed to be a private thing between a husband and wife. Wasn't that embarrassing!" For your littler kids, I would simply say that, "Mommy and Daddy were having a fun game that only husbands and wives play. I'll explain it to you when you're older." You never want to explain more than your kids need to know at that time. But keep calm and light and casual about it. Don't make it into some big moment or huge scene. The more agitated you are about it, the more your kids are going to feel that something is wrong or that there is something really interesting going on and they'll want to know more or end up with a hang up about it. So keep it simple, truthful, and matter of fact.
And keep a timer handy the next time! LOL
(Also -- this happens to so many people. You're not the only one. DD walked in on us once and we didn't even know it until I saw her playing "Mommy and Daddy" with Barbie and Ken. She doesn't even remember this, so don't think you've scarred your kids for life!)
2006-12-09 12:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How crazy are we talking here? Loud? I'm not perving on you, I have a point. If you were going at it on the living room floor, maybe this was a surprise. If you were in the master bedroom and howling, MIL was not surprised and for some reason felt like making an embarassing situation.
Just look at that as a possibility.
As for the kids, the official story is that you were play fighting. By the time they figure the mistruth out they will understand. It is an explanation that they will probably buy long enough for this to blow over.
If this appears to be an innocent intrusion by MIL, a confession is in order. Yes, mom, we admit it. we were having sex. we figured it would be OK since we are married. The kids were all formed by spontaneous combustion and the time you caught us was the first time.... honest!!! Be funny about it, hopefully humor will defuse an embarassing situation.
2006-12-09 12:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three kids 6,4 and a new born. Your mother inlaw is embarassed that she saw and is embarassed for you I'm sure. She will get over it, I just wouldn't bring it up. If she does just tell her it's your house and you all were alone and maybe in the future knocking would be a good idea. As far as your children, they are children and you are a grown up and don't have to explain yourself. If you change the subject or just say mommy & daddy were having alone time they will eventually quit asking. However the older two will always have the vision of their parents "doin it!" Maybe one day you will find it a little humorus.
2006-12-09 12:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by TEXAS MOM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain that mommy and daddy were spending time together like loving parents do. No need to go into a big explanation. As for your mother-in-law she might just b embassed or if not you weren't doing anything wrong. Good grief U were in your own home. What was she doing just walking in anyway?? Maybe locking the doors next time might help. Just a thought.
2006-12-09 12:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by lighthousebug64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can imagine how embarrassing that must have been. Assuming this question is legit, of course. Well, I would recommend an honest approach for the 10 year old and a sugar coated approach for the younger ones. I am not suggesting you deceive them, but you might wish to skimp on the details.
2006-12-09 12:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by DJL2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to explain to anyone what you were doing. The kids are young and a real explanation wouldn't work to well. The best thing to do is answer the children's questions as honestly as possible but as simply as possible also . As for your mother in law she isn't naive enough to believe with three kids you guys aren't doing anything so she will get over it.
2006-12-09 12:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by siera_summer75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that this is how they were made and try to keep it like that i guess, this is hard and imbarassing for you. Well why didn't she knock? The 10 year old should probably need a little more explaining. They do start earlier these days. I'm sorry all i could say is try to forget about it i don't know hun good luck though.
2006-12-09 12:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to apologize, sex is normal and after all, you are married. She will just have to get over it and as far as the kids are concerned, you need a dead bold on the door.
Two people need time together and yes, me and my wife take off about once every two or three months for a weekend. We don't need to travel far, just someplace we both like, get a room and enjoy each others company all weekend long.
2006-12-09 12:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by George C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you were wrestling....just kidding, kids can handle things if you are honest with them. It's never easy having that kind of conversation with little kids, but when it happened to me, I told my kids that that is how babies are made, of course I have always been very open with those conversations with my kids, although the first ones weren't easy! As for your mom-in- law...she needs to get over herself...how does she think the 3 grandbabies got there in the first place. Sex is part of a relationship and if she is that way, forget her and let her come to terms with it....is she a virgin!!!! I hate mom in laws!!!!!
2006-12-09 12:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋