Help me i need someones opinion asap, abortion or not?

Question

i had a partner but then on the 20th of august i had sex with this other boy but i had a period 2 weeks before i dun it with this boy (4th aug) and 2 weeks befor that period i had a period for 5 days (19th-25th july) but the one 2 weeks later was for 3 days really light.and i keep doin those due date calendars and when i put in my 5days period it makes me about 1 or 2 weeks further than the doctors measured me which is 18 weeks but it comes up 20/21 weeks. when i put in the 3 day period it came out with the 20th august that conception happened. im not sure which is more accurate. my family know my partner but this other person is like my cousin, not exactly but were close family friends and im gonna be so ashamed if were all there and the baby looks like him and not my partner./ what should i do?

ok forget abortion

dna tests are like 350

Answer 1

the doctors measurements of the fetus are most accurate.....it sounds though from the periods that you conceived after the period of the July 19th.....its common to bleed lightly your first month of pregnancy as the little guy is still sort of nestling into your uterus. However.......lets face it hun, things are screwed up......have you talked to the other guy? Does he know? I don't know what to tell you hun. I thought the doctors were off with my first child too, I knew when we had sex.....sooo, I wish I could help, if you wanna email me for support I am open for that. Trust me babe.....lots of women have been there!

Answer 2

You don't seem like you want an abortion. It sounds like you want your baby, but you want it to be your partner's and not the other boy's. Have your baby, and if it will put your mind at ease, have a paternity test when the baby is born. If you had a period after you had sex with the other boy, chances are you were not pregnant at the time, even though your period was light. But you can't undo the past. What's done is done, and if this baby is the other boy's, there's nothing you can do about it. It might seem like a terrible thing right now, but you can learn to live with just about anything, and it won't be the end of the world. You will still love your baby. Embarrassment is not a reason to consider abortion.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Fisrtly, doesn't anyone use any kind of birth control anymore?
But its too late for that. If baby is already 18 weeks, you can't have an abortion anymore. I am ALL about a woman's choice regardless of situation. But this baby is close enough to being able to survive (with some help) outside the womb.
Perhaps this is something you should have thought about before having unprotected sex with multiple partners (esp if one of them is like family). Sounds like your partner prob won't be around by the time baby is old enough to look like someone one way or another anyway if he knows your sleeping around.
Maybe put the baby in foster care until he/she is old enough for plastic surgery so it doesn't look like the daddy anymore, then you can introduce your child to everyone at Christmas 2023.

Answer 5

You need to be completely honest to whoever and explain that you had sex with this other boy. You are too far along to be getting abortions now, your BABY is almost fully developed. You need to tell them now so they aren't surprised when the baby is born. Who cares if you feel bad, you made a mistake and you need to own up to it. If you don't want the baby, give it up for adoption. There are THOUSANDS of couples out there that CANNOT have babies and they would gladly take yours if you can't care for it. Do not have an abortion simply because you are embarrassed the baby might look like the person you had an affair with, that is selfish, and the baby did not ask for that. When the baby is born, have a paternity test done to establish who is the father.

Answer 6

Well. I think if you abort and it is your partners then you will feel even more ashamed. Perhaps the baby will look like you?? I believe it is too late to have an abortion. I would just take everything one day at a time. When the baby gets here nobody will care who it looks like. They will all just be excited to see the little person. Good luck. Please don't try to kill this innocent life.

Answer 7

Eh, you're too far along to have an abortion now. At 18 weeks your baby is too developed. If you had him/her now it would be a perfect little baby, maybe it would even cry when you had him/her, then he/she would die and you would regret it the rest of your life. Quit worrying and have the kid, they all look similar at first anyway, and if you are really curious then have a dna test done when the kids older.



Thank-you for not getting the abortion!!!! Good for you.

Answer 8

oh god that poor baby. It would be very selfish for you to get an abortion. If you can live with the fact that you got an abortion b/c you were ashamed or embarrassed by what YOU did that is really sad. To me that's not a good enough reason, in fact the only reason i think that is good enough is if you were raped.

Answer 9

This is not about who the father is, but whether you will be able to live with the outcome, a baby. You really should consult a counselor about your feelings. This is not a question that can be answered by anyone but you. Best of luck no matter what your choice may be.

Answer 10

Why would you want to kill a baby? That's what abortion really is, you know. Would you let your feelings of shame allow you to do that?

I am not 100% pro-life, either. I just think it would be such a bad thing to get rid of a child because you might be ashamed.