to have lost interest in me. We haven't made love since we found out in August... He barely even kisses me. And when he does kiss me, it's on the cheek. I don't understand why. I asked him and he just says "Is sex all you think about?". I have only gained 7 pounds so I don't think that it is a physical thing. Please help.. either ideas of why he has changed or ideas of how I can make him interested in me again.
2006-12-09 03:55:46 · 13 answers · asked by pregnantandlonely 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
this pregnancy was not planned. I can not take birth control for other health reasons...so we both new that there was always a chance for a pregnancy. He is not cheating on me. He works 7 days a week..and his work is right across the street from where we live. Our children and I are always there with him, because he calls and WANTS us there. We even help him at work.
It is not a finacial thing, we are finacially stable.
2006-12-09 04:16:38 · update #1
talk to your husband, explain to him that having a baby is a good thing and symbolises love. share your fellings and dont keep them bottled up because you'll explode!!! if you really love him then you will try and sort things out and tell him that you having this baby will change your's and his life in a GOOD way!!!
2006-12-09 04:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is probably a shock to him was this planned or what. Some men go through this nothing to be alarmed about. I am sure he will be a good father. It is normal for you to gain some weight during your pregnancy. He is probably got alot of things going through his mind at one time. He is probably trying to think things through. He will be there for you I am sure. I know I was liked that when my wife got pregnant with our children, and being doctor I can not always be there in person, because sometimes I am on call at the hospital and she understands that as well. If problems get worse you might want to seek out help from you family doctor about this he would know a lot more about a patient and family history, and case history. Than me telling you this over the internet. I hope this helps you. Best of luck to you and your pregnancy I hope everything goes well for all of you. Again Congratulations.
2006-12-09 04:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by ChrisandSheila L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is feeling overwhelmed with the idea of another child in the house. He is probably hesitant to tell you that because he doesn't want to seem like he doesn't want the baby. You seem sure it isn't a physical thing, so don't focus on physical affection. Try talking about the other things that may be bothering him. How are you going to afford the new baby, will you still have time to care for each others needs with three children, will you both still have time for adult activities (dinner out, movies...)
My brother-in-law keeps saying that he will divorce my sister if she has another child. They have 2 now. I don't think he really means it if she were to accidently get pregnant but that is just his way of expressing that he has enough children. She happens to agree that 2 is enough, so that works out well for them.
In all this rambling, what I'm trying to say is that there is something on his mind that he is not able to communicate. Keep talking to him about things other than sex, and he will probably open up.
2006-12-09 04:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well how long have you been to gether and also has he been acting wierd like leaving all the time or late at work or stuf where he could be cheating and you know he could be stressed and scared and all what are the age diffrence and all i mean thats hard to be a dad of that many children most men get scared and all.and i would not say he is cheating if this has just been going on since you found out but if it is before he might be i mean mid life crisis or something and also he could might not want to hurt the baby and all i i really need more info to try to think more you can emaili me so maybe i can help you more crystalhailie@yahoo.com i hope you find out and all
what is going on i really hope it is nothing bad have yall been okay i think that a man think that you know that hey it is hard enough and they have a hard time as it is because they dont have the anturel thing like moms get and all i mean that and they have a harder time and they get stressed easily my babys father was scared he was going to hurt the baby maybe you had problems before and he blaims himself i think that yall need to sit down and talk and tell him how you feel just find the right time that he wants to talk you know how guys are not first thing and not the last so i would talk and tell him and just tell him to please be honest because yall had children to gether and a family and i he is scared and th last thing he needs is stress you out being pregnant and all and you want the baby to be okay and all.
2006-12-09 04:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by crystal b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men always change when it comes to pregnancies.
It has nothing to do with you, but...was it planned?
Some men feel trapped if the pregnancy wasn't planned.
Talk to you husband, tell him you love him and that everything will be okay.
But you and him need to talk, because when the baby is born, you don't have enough time for a while.
Make sure he is okay with the baby...and that he isn't jalouse.
That would be something for doc.Phil! LOL
Enjoy your pregnancy, feel happy and be happy...don't let this come in your way of being happy about the pregnancy.
2006-12-09 04:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by snowflakes_in_november 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be stressed out about the new financial responsibility a 3rd baby will bring. I think its been a good while, and you've given him some space, he'll probably start coming around soon. If not then talk to him about getting some couple's therapy.
2006-12-09 04:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, you deserve to be treated better! You can't make a guy interested if he's not. You shouldn't be stressing. You have to be healthy for that baby. Easier said then done I know. But I also Know, being a mother myself that you love your kids more then anyone and you would put them first before anyone. Your husband I'm sorry to say is a jerk. i don't want to hurt your feelings or get you anymore upset, but when men loose interest in their wives it usually means there's another women. Sorry, but think about your kids first.
2006-12-09 04:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may be the stress he's feeling about having to support another life. You might want to go see a therapist and talk things out. Good luck!
2006-12-09 03:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by miss_freakin_amazing 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer. He might be stressed out because of bills, college tuition costs for 3 kids, etc. If you attend church set up an appointment for the two of you to speak to your minister.
2006-12-09 04:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He could be cheating on you.What man turns down the opportunity to have sex,I mean come on since August.Start investigating!!!I don't mean to soung so blunt but it's reality and it does happen.
2006-12-09 04:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by Bunky 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋