i'm currently married but unhappy. I like a coworker but he doesn't want to start anything untill my marriage is over,which is the right thing to do,problem is that I want to talk to him but can't what do I do?
2006-12-09 03:52:09 · 23 answers · asked by tweetiebird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you didn't specify why you're unhappy in the marriage we can all assume. First you have to figure you your marriage before you try to have another realtionship. You know they (relationships) aren't easy. You may just have lust-at-first-sight with this co-worker. It's not ok to end your marriage because of someone else. First fix/end your marriage and then move on.
2006-12-09 04:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got involved with a girl who is married and work with and going through hell because of it so I dont blame him.You better be sure your unhappy and done with that relationship because if this guys starts to fall in love with you then hes gonna expect you to leave your husband to be with him and when you tell him your not ready to,this is gonna start some big problems.Im sure everyone at work know your married and youll have to keep everything hidden so that people dont look at you and him bad.Please spare the guys the heartache and You the headache and get out of your current situation before you get with another guy.Especially if theres kids involved,then this is most likely over before it even got a chance.
2006-12-09 12:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by rock_roll_musicman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy in your marriage you have two options. One is to work on the relationship or the other is to end it. List the pros and cons of either decision and give it some good thought. If you have a good friend sit down with them or find a therapist to find out what it is you are seeking from another person. Maybe you can work this out in your marriage because sometimes we look to others when a relationship is failing so we don't have to deal with that. You need to refocus on what is in your life before you add another aspect that is sure to cause hurt feelings and emotional turmoil.
2006-12-09 11:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question is: were you unhappy before or after you met the coworker? If you know the answer to this then you might be able to figure out if this new attraction is real or if it's just commitment issues on your part that you need to work out. Good luck.
2006-12-09 11:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not start anything with anybody else since you are married. If you are unhappily married, there are two choices: Work out your marriage (get counselling), or get a divorce if all else fails. Your co-worker has enough decency to tell you he doesn't want to start anything until you are no longer married. He knows better. You owe it to your spouse to either try to work things out, or to be honest and file for divorce. Do not become a cheater. It will damage you, and will cause problems and complications in the future.
2006-12-09 12:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by newmum06 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is worse thing to do. If you think your marriage is just not going to work then divorce him. Don't cheat until that. He will be hurt so much to know that you want divorce because you love someone else and cheating on him. His curse will not take you far away in life. You will also pay someday with the same kind of hurt you have given him plus the INTEREST! Have some fear of God.
2006-12-09 12:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this will not be a popular answer but I have to be honest. Marriage is not about happiness of love its about commitment.
If you want love you have to make the commitment to do what it takes to develop your marriage.
If you want happiness only you can make the happiness. My children have told me "you make me so mad" and I say thank you for giving me so much power over you that I can manipulate your feelings. Then we usually talk about owning our feelings.
If it doesn't work out with your husband now you will just take your problems to the next relationship.
2006-12-09 12:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by Noka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First get your priorities right. First get the signature for you divorce and when you get the final copy then you are free to F anything to moves. DO not cheat while you are still are married, could come back on courts and might have to paid more vaginomony to the ex.
2006-12-09 12:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations! Your a cheater! You have flirted with a co-worker enough to want to start something with him as soon as your marriage is over. Big News Break! Your marriage IS over. I'd ask your husband to file for divorce against you. Tell him of your cheating so he will be soooooo p.o'ed that he will take you for everything you own! I'm siding with your hubby on this one! This just bites! Your wrong!
2006-12-09 11:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First talk to your husband about why your unhappy , this guy maybe just something you feel your missing in your marriage and you may regret later.first things first marriage.
2006-12-09 11:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋