My grandmother died 2 days ago. I was very close to her and she was more of a mother to me. My childhood was full of chaos and my mother is not mentally stable. I am crushed that she died so suddenly.
Today is the first of the calling hours. My mother treated my grandmother badly for most of her life. She also manipulated her and used her. Now my mother is playing the role of grieving daughter and ordering everyone around. She even planned the entire funeral without consulting my granfather. She is looking at this as a chance for her to be in the spotlight. Her behavior is loud and attention-seeking. She also lies about people, twists the facts, creates drama, and is not afraid to throw public tantrums. (she is 57).
I am hurting so badly that Grandma is gone. I don't know how to handle my mother's innapropriate and insincere behavior. It is like salt in the wound.
2006-12-09 03:44:45 · 3 answers · asked by Jennifer D 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you for that reply. I am a Christian already and that is about the only thing carrying me through this.
2006-12-09 03:59:48 · update #1
Dear Jennifer,
Please accept my condolences on your loss of your gramma. Know that she now is watching over you and giving you strength to do the best you can do to get through these sorrowful times. I know you have great everlasting memories of her and I am sure have values that she taught you so you will be OK.
As for your mom, take everything she is saying and doing with a grain of salt and do not allow it to personally effect you. You know the truth and that is all that is important. You are not accountable for her or her actions, she is. Take care of yourself, eat healthy, drink plenty of water, try to get good nights sleep, that's what gramma wants you to do.
Our higher power is always there, night and day, to listen to you, guide you, and give you strength...continue with your praying, it is very powerful and soon you will start feeling some comfort. Definitely, talk, feel, cry, it's OK and necessary to get through all of this. The hurt and pain will get better I promise.
I said a special prayer just for you.
Again...so sorry for your loss but know your gramma is always right there in your heart and thoughts. God Bless you and your family.
2006-12-09 08:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mamma Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first, honey, i'm sorry for the lack of ability of your Grandmother. that is obvious which you adore her very lots. communicate on your grandfather and tell him the variety you experience approximately your mom's habit and the reality that she left him out of the making plans. once you're making your self scarce for the duration of the complaints, that is going to likely be easier so which you could not could witness you mom's habit. you do not say how previous you're, so i don't understand whether or not you have a call in attending the activities. do not confront your mom. that is going to basically carry approximately a scene which you will not come out of with out issues being worse between your mom and you. maximum human beings (the adults besides) will understand you mom's erratic habit for what's is and could not pay any interest to her. purely bear in mind the main mandatory element and that's that your grandmother enjoyed you and took care of you for as long as she ought to. in the experience that your mom is surely mentally volatile, do you terrific to comprehend that she isn't on top of issues and don't enable her make issues worse for you.
2016-10-18 00:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenniffer, first of all my heartfelt sympathies to you! my grandmother lived with us till i was 14 and died suddenly she was like a mother to me also. i can sympathise with that! but i can only imagine about the situation with your biological mother. this must be beyond tough for you. Jennifer you arent alone!! i know this will sound vague maybe or even strange i dont know if you know but JESUS LOVES YOU. he REALLY does. he wants me to tell you to speak to HIM tell HIM. what is in your heart only HE can truly help you. get a bible if you dont have one and start reading the book of John. Jennifer i will be praying for you and leaving you in GODs hands. you are not alone! GOD cares! i care! hurting for this time is only natural but regarding the salt in your wounds, this can vanish and turn into a healing balm if you surrender yourself to GOD-->Jesus. i hope you will consider this! thankyou for allowing me to share this with you! all my love, someone who cares xo
2006-12-09 03:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋