I'm in a relationship with a very nice, beautiful and smart girl for almost 5 years now - a couple of months ago, we got engaged.
Just recently, i've been getting this urge to have a one time affair with another girl when she hinted that she liked me. I don't have any feelings for her and i love my fiancee very much but i feel that i should atleast have another experience before tying the knot. I'm 24 right now and haven't had any other sexual relationship with other girls aside from my fiancee. She, on the other hand, have had several relationships before me.
Am i being a stupid #&@^%# idiot? Is this a normal urge?
2006-12-09 03:40:51 · 7 answers · asked by System_ID 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it may be a normal urge but understand one thing....if you do it, you risk losing this woman that you love so much....so if you are a smart young man you will not do it....good luck
2006-12-09 03:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am recently married, and had the same thoughts and dreams, so I'd say it's quite normal. But I did not follow through and on my wedding day I had a big smile on my face and a nice bright glow. If you cheat you will be thinking about it on your wedding day and may not have that glow, especially if you have no fellings for this girl who is trying to damage your current relationship. Once I had this dream that I was in your position, with some girl where oral sex turned out gushing. this is a figurative consequence. You should note the possible consequences of following thru with such actions that will bear no pleasure whatsoever. Your fiance is the best that's ever happened to you and she deserves faithfulness. Make her keep her reasons for saying "yes" and "I do". What every man needs is a beautiful, smart and desirable woman and you should feel fortunate that this is what you have, so please dont just flush your fiance down the toilet; get rid of this trouble maker and get on with what is truly meaningful. Ive not had such desires for anyone else since my wedding night.
2006-12-09 04:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by element_op 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal for anyone feeling that way exspecially if they never had an experence before. but to act upon it , thats different don't have an affair even its only for one time,. If you love your fiance, stay faithful to her no matter what, maybe you are getting scared, that does not make you stupid you are only human, just because your fiance had several relationship before you does not matter. be lucky she chose you to share her whole entire life with. congradulations. to the both of you.
2006-12-09 03:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are able to love his girlfriend, fiancee, wife so very much and still be able to fantasize and even have sex with another women without ever stopping to love their respective woman. We are wired differently, but it has to do with TRUST, honesty, communication, anfd have to deal with the guilt afterwards.
2006-12-09 03:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by cellomaticus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal urge- acting on it, on the other hand, would make you a #&@%# idiot.
2006-12-09 03:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a stupid #&@^&&^*((*&^^%5 idiot go have some fun... but do it before your married
2006-12-09 03:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by val l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
normal dont be tempted though.
2006-12-09 03:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by question man 911 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋