my husband and i have been married for 10 years. the other night i was out and i did somthing with a man that i wasnt suppost to do then we kept in touch every night i meet him and we do it again again and again. it needs to stop but i feels great.
2006-12-09 03:39:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell your hubby you want to open up the relationship!
2006-12-09 03:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sick and tired of people judging other people in hear. Things happen in life, until you walk in that persons shoes and feel what they are feeling don't judge people just try and give them good honest advice. In your case you need to decide what you want are there honest feelings between you and this man or is just a roll in the hay for one of you or both. Do you cherish your relationship with your husband. My guess is there is something wrong with your marriage if you would do this your husband deserves to know there is a problem and you need to decide if you are willing to fix it or not. Be honest with your self, you know what you really want in your life. The best piece of advice I have ever received was, accept the things in life you have no control over but have the courage to change the things you do have control over. Figure out what you want and make the changes you need to make in your life.
2006-12-09 03:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by scout1567 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is the most evil things anyone can ever do to me, it has been done to me, thats why i left the B#####. I don't see how anyone lives with them selves, i would feel guilty all the time. Marriage is a serious thing between 2 people, once the trust is gone im gone. Get help and ask yourself why? I hope you don't have any kids.
2006-12-09 03:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stop it, the first step is DOING SO, and it has to be in your heart! Then, tell the man gently you can't go on with it. (IF thats what you want!!)
Obviously something is wrong in your marriage that you had to look for what you're missing with your Spouse.
Also, you need to either work on your marriage or break up first if you want to continue with the other guy!
Good Luck and I hope you figure things out!
2006-12-09 03:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your phone number and cut off all contact with him. Get tested for vd. If it comes back negative, its on your conscience on whether to tell you husband or not.
There are probably some underlying issues that caused you to cheat. Suggest marriage counseling and focus some of the energy you spent on the affair on your husband.
2006-12-09 03:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Achaholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either completely stop talking to and seeing this man... or tell your husband and end your marriage. You can't have it both ways. How would you feel in you were in your husband's shoes??
2006-12-09 04:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by girlgriffin711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to file for divorce against you. Tell him you are a no-good-for-nothing cheater, who doesn't deserve to be with him or anyone of equal character. Tell him you can't see past your carnal desire for sexual release. Tell him you are so shallow that it's ridiculous. Then sit back and reap what you've sown!
2006-12-09 03:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you meet up with him, let him do something to you that you never let your husband do...if you still like doing it with him after that, never fear; your marriage is going to come to a head very shortly after that! I guarantee it...
2006-12-09 03:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get urself together and be strong, it takes determination to really wanna stop urself from doing what you think is wrong but feels so right. and yea it is very wrong to sleep with another guy when ur married.. let it go.. dont ruin ur marriage, its not worth it.
2006-12-09 03:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by janna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to stop the affair, tell your husband what you just told us... the affair will stop quick and fast
2006-12-09 04:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by val l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋