We have been together 4 years, but the last two have been horrible. When we met I was 6 months pregnant and he had a little girl. Everything was wonderful until we found out that his little girl wasnt biologically his. He became distant and eventually even cheated. I cheated and even had a baby outside of our relationship. We had broke up earlier this year, but got back together in July. I just found out that he has been cheating on me since September and even had a ring on this girls finger. Worst of all he had manipulated me into believing that we could have a polyamorous relationship (I am bi) and had the girl living in our home for a few days. I recently heard someone say that love is as love does and love doesnt hurt. So if we love each other so much why do we keep hurting each other. Is it possible for us to find our way back to each other. We had such a profound love for each other at one time and lost sight of that due to poor communication. I miss us. Is all this fixable?
2006-12-09 03:25:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that if both of you are really committed to fixing it, it might work out. I think considering all that you have been through you will have to work on regaining trust and redefining your relationship so that you are both clear on what you expect from it.
2006-12-09 03:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No relationship is un fixable( is that a word?) However, this situation seems like an extremely difficult one to overcome. My fiance broke up with me and told me to hit the road. i thought it was over, but fixed the problems and made it work. I guess what i'm saying is that in all the relationship repair books I read, they always mentioned that the are all able to be repaired, if you want it bad enough. I would easily move on. Easier said than done. I know how you feel. So, I'll stop rambling and say yes, this relationship can be fixed if both parties wish it to be.
2016-05-22 22:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What love you had seems more like lust.
Where is your respect? Your trust? Your communication?
Once a cheater, always a cheater. If you both really loved each other, you wouldn't have cheated in the first place. He wouldn't have cheated.
You deserve better. This relationship is done. I don't know why you would want him back after so many lies?
2006-12-09 03:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok u cheated on him and you got back together and then he cheated on u. if u siad sorry then its his fault 4 cheating on u he's not the right guy 4 u and someone out there is so try 2 get over him and try someone new.
2006-12-09 03:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the realationship is really complicated with a lot of past behind it. It is a lot to work through and would be difficult to fix. It's kind of like "same dance, same song, second verse." I would advise to move on and focus on your children.
2006-12-09 03:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by cinderella48z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That relationship is a goner.. move now, go... that is heading nowhere but to pain and lies. Move on now while you have a chance. Although Jerry Springer might want to talk to you.
2006-12-09 08:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no ! broken broken broken! make a new relationship start over
2006-12-09 03:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is wrong with you dump him
2006-12-09 03:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by bigpopi@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
2006-12-09 03:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by Keepingmycool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋