My bf of a year and half asked me to marry him and i was so overwhelmed by everything the fancy resturant and then the ring he brought 4 different rings(tiffancy's) for me too choose because he did not know which one i would like best.It was perfect it was everything i wanted in a proposal that i had dreamed about since i was a little girl so i said yes but not because i am madly in love with him . I said yes because it seemed the natural progression of things the way thing were going in the relationship.He is 26 going on 27 and i am 20 and still in college.He is set up well finacially because his parents have money and he went to law school.So he is a great catch the thing is i feel more of a sense that i really like and care for him than am in love with him?I also feel we have little in common?What is going on with me?
2006-12-09 03:20:40 · 4 answers · asked by Carla K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am scared that i agreed to marry him for the wrong reasons what do i do?If i talk to him he will get mad!
2006-12-09 03:24:43 · update #1
RUN! You are NOT ready for marriage! Tell him the truth, then move on. Do NOT under any circumstances marry him, just because it's the
natural progression of things"! This is YOUR life, not just his! Good Luck!!
2006-12-09 03:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is the time to work out all your differences and problems before saying I do and regretting it afterwards. Its much easier now to call things off. Just tell him that youre just not sure about getting married and a future with him, basically everything especially whats bothering you. If nothing else and youre still not sure go for a long engagement til at least you complete your education. If hes truly in love with you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you, a few years wont matter. just make sure this is the guy you want to spend a lifetime with, now before you make a mistake youll regret for sometime. Good luck
2006-12-09 03:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not 100% positive that you are ready for marriage with your bf then you should tell him. It should be easy to tell whether you should say yes when it is the right person. If you have doubts you are not quite ready. Maybe spending more time with him will change your mind or maybe not. It's not worth getting married and then figuring out it was a poor choice. You wouldn't want to EVER regret getting married.
2006-12-09 03:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by fuzzlenose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't bring yourself to love him then the relationship will never work. You're still young and might not be ready for a lifelong commitment. At the very least you should make it a very long engagement and spend some time figuring out how you feel.
2006-12-09 03:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by CHRISTINE S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋