i can't be faithful to my wife or four children,i lie to the women here and don't know why i claim to be muslim but don't know grap about it.please help me make it up to my wife before i lose my four children and the one wpmen who has stood beside me for 10 yrs
2006-12-09 03:14:01 · 14 answers · asked by screamer168 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are ok in my book, of course my book is the liars guide to the world
2006-12-09 03:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you realize you've got a problem. That's a good start.
Allah can help, but you need to let Him into your life. Start by talking with your local mullah, and see if there is a program or counseling you can get. Having the support of your family will also help, because it's easy to backtrack if you're all alone.
Remember that although Allah is powerful, He works through you. Don't expect a miracle (that's presumptuous!), ask for the courage you'll need for the long months and years ahead of you, and hope that you can be worthy of Him answering.
About being a good muslim...a lot of people read the Koran to get inspiration. Sometimes it can be hard to understand, so why not ask your wife to read it with you? Also, try designating one day a week to be a family day where you and your children spend time together talking about God, playing games that relate to the Koran, or doing things together as a family.
Good luck! Peace be with you.
2006-12-09 11:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That must feel pretty bad when you lie to people online and we have no idea who you are! Damn!! You must be a good liar even in person.
In order to find God, just walk into a church every sunday. And try going other times of the week too.
I'd make one of my first stops at your local counseling center. You need it bad. Your not only a cheater to your family, your a compulsive liar. There are some mental issuses along with this, so be prepared to be put on medications.
2006-12-09 11:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need Allah, you need a boot to the head. Grow up and take resposibility for your choices. You got married and now 4 kids are looking up to you as the model of how men are supposed to act. If you have boys, you'll perpetuate your actions and if you have girls, you'll show them that this is the way men treat women.
Buck up buddy, you're not in high school anymore. Better get some couples counselling.
2006-12-09 11:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by C_n_Dman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! You have a delima! You do not state that you are now divorced, or seperated, but I can assume that she finally got tired of your behavior. Either way, your cheating is more deep rooted than you think, and could be simply you never really loved her. (I speak from experience.) The lies, are just that, lies that support your theory, that if you told the truth, you would not be liked or loved because of it. My recommendation, find a counselor, talk it out then involve the Wife, and Kids. They are the ones that you are teaching, and that teaching will pass to them and affect their behavior as adults and their relationships as well.
2006-12-09 11:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by R. W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you dont deserve them at all...there is no possible way you loveyour wife and diffently not your kids because if you did you would have thought twice before cheating what if you contract a diease and give it to your wife and if she is sick and you are sick who are going to take care of the kids.you put your wife's health in jeopardy and you put your kids in jeopardy who losing the people who are suppose to love them the most. Your first step you need to tell your wife and let her decide.
2006-12-09 12:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are prabably lying about this as well. You seem to have a demon living within you. HOw to get it to flee. !st you need to really really really what to. Pray all the time about it...You may now be so so so far from the Almighty that you will need a mediator. Someone who is really in touch with goodness could pray with and for you.
These demons all have certain personalities This one you have could be a sex feen. Clean yourself up
2006-12-09 11:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree ,, you are a loser, that poor woman and those kids deserve to have a real life and someone who can be loyal, respectful,and loving only them. They need a real man not one in a shell like you seem to be.. Grow up and face your own lies and sorry butt. GET HELP.
2006-12-09 11:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew how to reach her I'd call her and tell her to dump your sorry butt.....she and those kids deserve a whole lot better than you....get a life loser
2006-12-09 11:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you should know what to do, keep your you know what in your pants. And start spending your time with your family. Simple as that.
2006-12-09 11:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋