Why do some guys feel that their wives/g/f's should do whatever they want sexually?

Question

Even if the woman isn't interested in what they want, like oral or anal sex, or like group sex or threesome?

Is it that hard to take no for an answer. If a woman doesn't want to do something like oral or anal sex, or to have a threesome or group sex, maybe he should respect her wishes and think of her feelings instead of pushing her or expecting her to do something she's not comfortable with.

Answer 1

Because some guys have little respect for their wife's sexuality. Because society as a whole has very little respect for feminine sexuality. I'm not saying, that there are not men and women out there that do not respect female sexuality, but it's not something we are taught to do. Just go to any abstinence only training program that has a focus on the so called emotional effects of premarital sex or think of the cliche "women have sex to make love and men have sex to feel good physically" or how we call women who have multiple sexual partners 'sl*ts with low self esteem trying to find love' who are 'being used' and men 'users'. It's ridiculous!

So, societally, men are trained to veiw women as their path to pleasure and women are told that they *might* enjoy sex, but only if they 'really love the guy' and have an 'emotional connection'. This leads to many women not knowing what they want, but doing whatever their partner thinks is good. This leads to un/married prudes as well as married and unmarried flimsy women who are just 'making love' when what they really need is to know their own sexuality and respect it. This sexual imbalance lets men think that they can demand, manipulate or if they beg enough, she'll give in. "She's just in it for the emotional stuff anyways."

Answer 2

Because, most guys are not that sexually experienced when they get married; which is why, more often than not, they get married in the first place!!!
A lot of guys get married because they want to have sex on-call, so they often feel that because they paid for a ring, a wedding, a honeymoon and signed all the necessary papers, they 'bought' a woman. Nothing could be further from the truth! Here's an excerpt from an article I wrote online for a guy who married a girl some years younger than himself:
"It's not a problem if you treat the people you meet with the same level of trust you use in a business deal. Marriage(and dating, for that matter) are business deals, though the heart is initially involved. Often times, men(especially) seem to forget that we are providing a service as well as trying to choose a life mate, and that once we sign the papers for a marriage license, we are bound by law to not only protect, support and care for that person's physical and emotional well-being, but to put up with whatever petty foibles they may display after the lust and infatuation have long since worn off. That's why women(also) in positions of financial authority often times have the men they are getting married to sign a pre-nuptual agreement; they realize that when the love goes south, the comfort they receive from being financially intact may be the sole feeling of control they have remaining!
I won't give you any horror stories to bolster my position; I'll just leave it at saying you really should think in terms of legal agreement. Once you realize that a marriage certificate doesn't guarantee anything EXCEPT legal responsibility, you have to ask what the lady is bringing to the table. If youth, beauty and sexual favors are it for her, what will you do when these are either withdrawn or become obsolete? Your position stays the same and will be seen as negotiable compensation for her 'troubles' when she has what she may have come for all along. Have fun, but stay safe!"

Answer 3

Women should be respected regardless if they're wives/gf's/ sluts and etc.... Reason behind it is that why do women think also that men are just as good as cash??? We can just spread off our legs and let you do whatever you want, but bottom line if men pay respect more to women then it would have been another thing. Not every women in the world is into those things. I do agree to what you said that respect is what is needed for this one. My hubby keeps on bugging me about things. But if it works the other way, I dont think men would really be please also if we ask them to do the same thing (specially anal).

Answer 4

I agree, mostly. Do NOT forget that you are your spouse's only outlet for sexual gratification. If you refuse every little thing that they would like to try, you are causing strife and discontent. However, you should not be forced to compromise your morals nor dignity. Say no to the adding of extra people. But say yes to the occasional BJ. As for anal...well...that is something you could negotiate for. Offer to do it to him first.

Answer 5

A man should never expect their wife, g/f or w/e to do anything sexually with them if they aren't comfortable with it, that is just selfish. The only thing that he is going to get out of doing that his sex with himself and have no g/f, wife or w/e. That is just my opinion. Maybe he should think about what she wants or needs once in awhile instead of himself.

Answer 6

I think marriage/relationships should be a tradeoff. The man has agreed to satisfy the woman's needs and the woman has agreed to satisfy his.

Maybe some guys get greedy cause they want alot of sex. But guys are more sexual than girls anyways. As long as the woman is still sexual on a regular basis, she doesn't have to do it EVERY day.

Answer 7

How sweet! But there are guys who are not into that stuff either and they would make a great match

Answer 8

I think male and female should do what ever their partner wants between the 2 of them no three or four

Answer 9

bravo for you......nice to see a man on here that isn't so selfish and hung up on himself.....

Answer 10

AMEN to that. maybe because they are pigs