I went to a mediaeval themed Xmas party. Although optional, in keeping with the event I went barefoot and knickerless (the latter being for my personal pleasure, not anyone else's). At one point I was put in the stocks. When helping me out, and after having to kiss my feet as part of his "punishment," the office junior saw up my dress. He apologised, but still had too-long-a look. Nothing else was said. The bloke is 22, looks very young for his age, has a girlfriend and he won't actually be back at work until after Xmas. As he's my junior how do I regain the upper hand? Do I just not mention it? Take him to one side, or will that only make things worse? Help!
2006-12-09 02:29:42 · 34 answers · asked by kitten_brunette_gemini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh dear. What a predicament. I'm not sure that you can regain your authority (other than relying on the passage of time) but the one thing you mustn't do is talk to him about it. It wouldn't achieve anything; you'd have to listen to his reply and that wouldn't be a lot of fun for you, whatever it was; at least he apologised once, and I think you have to leave it at that - further conversation will only make things worse.
2006-12-09 02:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by mrsgavanrossem 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too bad you didn't wear underwear, could save yourself and brittney spears a little embarrassment, but you didn't so the best thing to do is to take the situation head on. If let the junior know where you stand in the situation, he will respect you and have more confidence in you than before the situation happened. Great leaders always know how to overcome slight slip ups with dignity and integrity, maintain your integrity.
2006-12-09 02:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Curtzilla 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it.
If you take him to one side, you are making a big deal of it. He shouldn't of done it, he knows that & has apologised.
You haven't lost your authority as he will find out if he makes a mistake in the New Year, when he comes back to work.
2006-12-09 03:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
civilly clarify to her dad and mom (or have your fiance do it) which you do not think of that is trustworthy which you may foot the invoice for the junior bridesmaid. Black footwear are plenty extra probable to be worn back than silver ones - you have pragmatism on your area right here. flippantly clarify that your imaginitive and prescient of the marriage incorporates your bridesmaids finding magnificent in the comparable form gown. attempt to describe why you prefer to do issues they way you do. As for the adults bossing you around, you may attempt to ask for his or her innovations in different areas which you're extra versatile approximately and/or that they've information. they won't sense as secure as they sense they "could." attempt to keep in mind that weddings are stressful (properly duh) for all of us in touch. Be as affected person and awareness as you may - you're off to a super initiate! If all else fails, are you keen to cut back the cousin from the marriage occasion? that's extra substantial to you? What does your fiance think of approximately all this? in case you have a bridesmaid you may open as much as, i'm particular she might desire to help. one component i don't propose is adopting the Bridezilla techniques-set - that isn't get you what you opt for or make you any acquaintances. EDIT: You did not sound like a Bridezilla in any respect - you sound very form! i could hate to work out yet another superb person pass to the "darkish area," because it have been. you look like an incredibly candy person; that is unhappy that weddings can turn human beings slightly loopy. sturdy success to you and congratulations on your upcoming wedding ceremony!! Yikes, i'm hoping you get this mess resolved quickly!
2016-12-13 05:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't mention it and see know things go. If he does'nt act like a grown up on his return then a short sharp verbal blast I'll set him straight. He might of been staring because he was in shock! Like a rabbit caught in a headlight type of thing...
2006-12-09 02:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make an issue of it: if you do, he'll only tell everyone why (probably for the second time). If you 'go commando' this is what can happen: wasn't that thrill part of the reason for doing it ?
2006-12-09 02:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You liked it and stop trying to get people to answer you to fuel your depraved fantasies.
If you had any authority in the first place, you wouldn't have worn what you did and you wouldn't have behaved in that manner.
Leaders are leaders because they behave in a certain manner. You did not.
2006-12-09 06:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by KD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should have taken caution instead of blaming the guy, u should have been aware he migth get a glimpse, in case u would get a glimpse of a man's .... u too would have been shocked at still for a few seconds
2006-12-09 02:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
best thing is to not do anything. Act as if it was not a big deal and he will not see it as having the upper hand. If he thinks you are upset about the twinkle in his eyes, he WILL have the upper hand.
2006-12-09 02:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by duncabby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loads of things happen at Christmas work parties to loads of people, just don't mention it, I doubt he will want to bring it up either, probably just as embarrassed...
2006-12-09 02:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by Fu Manchu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋