of getting her to consider treatment without upsetting her. Any attempt by me to bring up the subject seems only to upset her and causes resentment and the opening of old wounds. The kids have taken to calling her an "alkie"
I love her and I don't want to watch her destroy herself.
Anyone gone through the same thing?
Any suggestions?
2006-12-09 02:18:22 · 13 answers · asked by The Jesus, Mohammed Buddha GIMP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-09 02:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard for some people to understand if they are an alcoholic or not. Usually you can say something to her, but she is the one that needs to get the help. Sounds to me like she might hit rock bottom soon. The kids calling her in 'alkie' I would think that would mean something to her. If my son ever said that to me I would go get help. Sit down with her and tell her how you feel. let her know that the drinking is bothering you and you think she might have a problem. Ask her if she wants to get help but, do it gently. Alcoholism is just like any other addiction. My moms has had a gambling addiction for 15 years now. Hit rock bottom twice, and did get help. But the help didn't last very long. She needs to see what she is doing, maybe hide a video camera one day when shes drinking at your house and show it to her. Maybe she'll change her mind then. Just some options to think about.
2006-12-09 02:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can really do is express your concerns to her and encourage her to get help. Forcing people into treatment (like through court order) usually doesn't work. The person has to want to stop. She's either in denial or is too frightened by the thought of facing life without using alcohol as a crutch. If she has been drinking heavily every day for a long period of time she should NOT try to quit cold turkey. She needs to do it under medical supervision. Alcohol withdrawal can be serious and life-threatening. Hopefully she'll realize she needs help. Just be supportive.
2006-12-11 12:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she have this addiction 3 years ago? If so, did you expect "your partner" to change?
Anyone with an addiction has to admit the problem firstly. It's not a disease, it's a choice. It's a choice made usually with the conviction that no one will stop them.
Ultimatums work the best - ship up or ship out. Ultimatums don't work if you don't follow through. You must have the courage of your convictions, because either way, you will surely need courage.
Read about moral choices (link below).
Good luck!
PS: Love conquers all
2006-12-09 02:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by curly bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same except it was drugs, well i left my husband but it was a different situation not like yours, but If you love her tell her either admit herself for help or you will have her committed and that is what work to get my husband help..... Because if the children are calling her alkie you need to get her help before they accidentally mention it to someone who calls child protection and they will remove the kids and there is not a damn thing you can do about it.......trust me!!!!
2006-12-09 03:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by */-Puss-n-Boots-/* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before each and every thing dont bypass to the vehicle dont take him out of the problem. if some thing the most i do is take them to the bathroom and grants a spank. there is no longer some thing incorrect with slightly spank for that sort of habit. My toddlers may by no skill act like that in public! That habit isn't tolerated in any respect! And in case you dont trust in spanking then at the same time as he acts that way only step decrease back and connect the gang staring. enable him scream by his in advantageous condition then at the same time as he's done proceed in what you became doing. at the same time as he sees he doesnt get a reaction he will end and soon be done. yet in my abode i trust in spanking and that i continually get complements on how nicely behave my toddlers are and there instructors love them in college. Its only each and each and every of how you take care of it and what they understand they can interrupt out with.
2016-11-25 00:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, alcoholics simply quit or die of their disease. And the disease of alcoholism is much harder on the female body than on the male body. There is nothing you can do, encourage her to get help. And so what if she gets mad. You can either sit quietly and watch her kill herself, you can encourage her to get some help or you can sit and watch her die. You have to make a choice, are you going to sit and watch her die, encourage treatment or leave her. My husband died at the young age of 32 years. It was the most horrible thing I have ever witnessed. I pray for her sake and the sake of the children she will get some help. Unfortunately, she has to want it, you can not make her. My prayers go out to you and your family. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-09 02:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her hit her bottom. Take care of yourself and the kids. She is sick and is in denial. I was once there, If it keeps up you may have to walk away. Sorry but when your down that road it seems as if you can't turn around! Try leaving AA pamphlets around the house let her make up her mind to take action!
2006-12-09 02:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by don b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a very hard situation!i would either just send her to a treatment facility against her will,and shell thank u later.or i would hide all the alchhol in ur house.or dump all the alcohol out and put water in it.good luck cuz that sounds really hard.
2006-12-09 02:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you say or do she has to want to change for herself...That's also a bad environment for the kids... Kids follow in the parents foot steps.. so what does this tell you...
2006-12-09 02:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by h-town chick 07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋