I´m 18 years old, and engaged to get married. Should I?

Question

I do love him, hes my everything. But everyone else says i shouldnt because of my age!

Answer 1

Don't get married right now. Stay engaged for a few years, and plan on getting married when you are 21. By then, you should know if it is right or not. If he really loves you, and it was meant to last, he will wait for you. If he doesn't wait, than it was not meant to be. This should give both of you some time to establish yourself in the adult lifestyle (i.e. going to college, getting a job, getting your own place to live). Getting married is stressful enough without having to deal with all of these things. After about two years, give it a go with living together, if all goes well then get married. I don't really believe in the whole playing the field thing. If you know in your heart that it is right than, it is. I started dating my husband at 17. We became engaged at 21, and got married at 24. We lived together for 2 years before we got married. Whatever stresses there were, we figured them out before it became legal. His brother used to tell him that he should have dated more girls, but he was the one for me, as I was for him!

Answer 2

I got married almost six years ago when I was in my late twenties and most of my friends got married around the same age. We all have our difficulties in our marriages that we need to constantly work on to keep things at a healthy quality. The reason people tell you, you are too young is because there is a big difference between the way to think at 18 and 28. Marriages now a days end in divorce and the older you are and dedicated to a good stable healthy marriage hopefully you don't become a statistic. I am living proof that 18 is young. I dated a guy from 15 to almost 21 and we ended up breaking up then a few months later I met my future husband. He and I dated for six years and engaged for a year and a half before we got married. Some people would say, why did you wait so long but if your meant to be together you will be. I think this is the time for you to do the things you want, to improve your life, as if you would be on your own. Things do change when you get married, not in a bad way of course, it is great but at the same time there is compromise and when you are young and single there are endless possibilities of things you can do all on your own. In the end you are going to do what you want but if the two of you love each other then why rush. If you don't get married right now no one is saying you never will. Maybe it will be in a few years. Trust me that few years will fly by.

Answer 3

Your friends are right you are young, very young, but I feel that I being married for 26 years to the only man, I have ever been with, and ever loved could be right for you. You need to ask yourself these questions; how long have you been with him; does he feel the same why you do are you his everything; do you both have jobs; do you both plan to go to collage; do you want to have children and when, the big question is what does being married mean to both of you; is it till death do you part or is it lets see if this will work out. if both of you feel that you want to spend the rest of your life’s together then My advise to you is because of my personnel experience (1) do not have a big wedding a big waste of money (2) both of you should have a job (3) both of you should get a collage degree (4) try to save a lot of your money (5) DO NOT HAVE ANY CHILDERN! Until you are financially, stable. Having children when you are still just newly weds can keep you in poverty for many, many years children are very expensive! Believe me I know I have three sons. Well good luck and I hope I was of some help to you.

Answer 4

I would say Do not listen to anyone but yourself. You are young but some people mature at 18 some never until 50. Marriage is a commitment till death do you part. You need to really think about your goals and aspirations, then know his. People change all the time and when you are married you are bond as one. I married at 19 and I wouldn't say it was a mistake cause I learned a lot from it but I am divorced raising a single child. When you get married you never think you will part but **** happens. Now a days you have to protect yourself and your future. He maybe great and adorable but as men and woman grow apart. If you are planning on going to college, I would say hold off on the marriage and finish it. If you to were truely meant to be together you will married or not.

Answer 5

NO, you are to young. You should wait till at least 21. I was engaged at 17 years old, I decided that it was not the best for me and to go on with my life. I went in the army and got married at 21 years old, was with that guy for 2 years and ended up in divorce. Got married a 2nd time at 23 years old and ended pregnant and divorced. Make sure it is what you really want there is alot of different relationships out there but make sure hes right for you.

Answer 6

I would encourage you to wait. Here is why:
It is great that you found some one to give and recieve love with, and since that is the case he will want your relationship to have every chance of succeeding for the long term. You will both continue to grow emotionally and intellectually for quite some years. You both will want to give your life partner the very best of yourself. In order to do that you have to have enough time to figure out what that will be. You both deserve to be certain that each of you is ready willing and ABLE to give the sacrificial love, and work that it takes to maintain a lifetime relationship. Also it will cause hardship on your marriage if you marry prior to going to college, and you may even not finish school. That in turn will cause more hardship because you will not be able to get a well paying job. That will equal even more stress on your life and your relationship. I would strongly encourage both of you to get through college, vocational school, or what ever you have planned in that area prior to considering the responsibility of a marriage and family. I did it the hard way, which is marriage first, then many years later, school. I had many hard years, with unfulfilling, poorly paying jobs. Then, trying to support my family with that kind of pay and go to school, I would not recommend that path for anyone.

Answer 7

You are young, but there is nothing to say you are too young to get married.

What you really need to think about is what you will be sacrificing if you do go ahead and get married? What is it that you could have done to better yourself without the restrictions of marriage?

While I realize you must feel love for this person you also need to realize that the life you have ahead of you is a long one and you need to kinda scrooge yourself and think about what you may want from it 10 years or so down the road.

While you are thinking about that also think about supporting yourself. Could you, if your fiance', husband to be, one day is not there to help out?

Don't limit yourself and what you can accomplish just because you want to get married. Dot your i's and cross your t's before hand and in the long run you will be a more confident person.

Answer 8

How old is he? Are both of you mature enough to handle the responsibilities of marriage?

On the other hand, is he/ she willing to wait until you are a few years older? How important is it what 'everyone else' believes?

Sounds to me like you are being swayed by what 'everyone else' is saying. Do they have a reason to be concerned about your marrying so young?

Put your FEELINGS aside...in ALL HONESTY, deep down, in your gutt, do you feel like you are ready ??? If there is any doubt...wait! If you there isn't doubt...go fot it.
Good luck in your decision !!!

Answer 9

If everyone is concerned about your age and you really love him then maybe you should have a long engagment. This way you can show your parents or whoever that you respect their concerns and at the same time you are proving to them that this is definitly the one for you.

Answer 10

You can do whatever you wanna do .......But if you wait till you are financially secure things will go smoother for you. One of the things people break up for is MONEY . Times are hard and making a living is too. Make sure you have a secure job and place to live first. If you have that then it doesn't matter how old you are.