Okay. My "boyfriend" and I have been constantly fighting due to some life events and due to the fact that It's hard being with him due to the fact that he has children of his own and an ex-wife and an angry family that always yells and just a whole bunch of drama. So his drama starts effecting me I start being cranky and we start fighting all the time. Than..we got into the lovely world of me hitting him when I was angry because I didn't know what I was doing..Than it started him hitting me back or just choking me when I said something to him. We got an apartment together and he made me leave yesterday without all my stuff. He said he would wake up and we would go somewhere to find someone to talk to together so we can try to figure something out. He still has all my stuff I can't even take a shower, it's 9 he's not waking up, he's not answering, Where can we go to get help? On a saturday morning?
2006-12-09 02:01:46 · 9 answers · asked by Tiffy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your question is not answerable right now. You don't even know if he's going to "get up."
More long-term. Is he more committed to you or to his family/ children/ ex-wife? I'd say that if I was going to choose even my son, who lives with his mother, over the girl I'm with (within reason of course, he may need to live near his child, you guys have to work that out between yourselves) then I'm pretty sure I'm not in love with the girl I'm with. Also! if you guys are yelling at each other, to the point of getting violent, your problems have become more than you can handle. Professional help might be necessary. My advice is, take care of yourself first. You can't really help anyone else when you are not in control of yourself. From what you say, it sounds like your "boyfriend" has issues and problems a plenty he needs to resolve, this may take years and definitely will take the ambition and will to get it done. With any situation, you may have to decide whether this is good for you or not. I can't imagine having this drama in my life, but I've seen much of it I guess. Just know that its not healthy, so you may have to set some boundaries, and like I said, take care of you first. That's the one place you are definitely responsible for keeping control of.
2006-12-09 02:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my partner for over 30 years. I've never cheated - and I trust that he hasn't either. Why go out for a hamburger when there's a filet mignon at home? LOL You asked, "How do two men in love make it through together through an adverse society, religion, and life?" I believe it's true that gays have a tough time with some aspects of society, religion, etc. I believe having a life long partner has made it EASIER, not more difficult. Being together makes challenges easier - and sometimes even fun! - to meet.
2016-05-22 22:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take an inventory of what you are seeking in this relationship and what you want in relationship with the opposite sex. Write down the positives and negatives. Then you will have a better insight of what you really want out of this relationship and others.
You are the only one who can chose what you will put up with, or not.
2006-12-09 02:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
move on woman once he put his hands on u and u let it go he will continue to do it next time it will get bad.u dont need someone being abusive to u if he cant treat u like a woman move on.there r plenty of men who would love a good woman.
2006-12-09 02:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by paultoledo2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could have controlled this situation when It started but you poured fuel on fire. I think you should let his temper to cool then you can call him and resolve the issue.
2006-12-09 02:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by cajadman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I nnshort,. there is no hope,..both of you need couseling,. if there is unwelcome physical violence in a relationship its pretty mcuh a lost cause
2006-12-09 02:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Khepri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is hope but you need to tell him how you feel and what you BOTH can do to make each otheres life better!
2006-12-09 02:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by dannie b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lots of facts
2006-12-09 02:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by iron chef bryan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Church.
2006-12-09 02:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋