I’ve been married for 3 years, and for 3 years I’ve endured abuse from my wife, verbally, physically and financially. What was thought to be a happy union turns up otherwise.
Ever since we are married, my wife created an environment in which I must obey and never argue. If that authority is been challenged, I’ll will be physically punished.
On average 5 times a week, I will be made to kneel on my knees slapping myself for questioning her or little mistakes that she could pick up. If I dun do it, she will threaten to leave the house. At times when I felt unfair and refuse the punishment, missiles of book, cup and whatever she can get her hands on will come hurling into my face. For three years, I’ve kept my silence and pray that my patience and love for her will somehow touched her and made her understand. Today, I’ve suffered two long cut on each of my forearm when she got into fit. I finally decided to make a police report, but I did not press charges. I still love her.
2006-12-09 01:58:32 · 11 answers · asked by CLOUDY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who wears the pants in your house? Why are you having to be subsmissive? Take charge, be a man!!!!!!!!!!!
Women need a strong man to lead them, guide them and even for correction. She has no respect for you, and you need to turn the table around, you need to be the man, the husband and she needs to be the woman, the wife. and submit to you and your authority!!!!
No man was created to do this junk !!!
No woman will respect a man, if he behaves like this, Get some old Fashioned beliefs, and be a real man, with stern attitude and be in charge and definetely wear the pants in your own house!!!!
2006-12-09 08:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be kidding to spend 3 years practically on your knees trying to defuse your abuser . And you still 'love' her ?
Even if she is a lot bigger than you in stature, you should not be intimidated and take this kind of treatment for an instant . They never stop, you know, only get worse . I hope you have no kids that can learn from you both .
Your police report is a joke if you don't follow up on it . Now, get your act together and show her you have had enough . Get her into anger management or some other type of help.
You can't keep your mouth shut for the rest of your life just so she is not incited . That women is sick, either get her help or get out off there pronto.
2006-12-09 02:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs to seek professional help. The things that she is doing to you are not normal behaviors. She is treating you the way she is to cover up something that you and even she may not be aware of. In some way her power over you is making her feel better about something that is wrong with her. If you love her like you claim to, you will report her in order for her to at least be put in a situation where the opportunity for help will be mandated, (anger management, and/or professional counseling are very often ordered by the courts in domestic cases)she will then have to decide whether or not she will accept it. This is not OK. This is also not love. Look out for yourself and for her too. Get help before something terrible happens.
2006-12-09 02:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kelley B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, very sorry to hear abt what happened to you... i do understand how you felt towards the incident..
Anyway, just my thought; loving a person is one great things that we human always do.. but with this type of abuse, it is more appropriate to press charges on her; is to improve her thinking thou, it does not meant that you dont love her. You still can love her as what she is..
But this is life, generally speaking, i think if a woman/man who behave this way is actually "insane", i think you have to do whatever need to be done.. and hope that she'll change after you make a report.. and if she decide to leave you, be patient and let her go, it's actually for a good.
To think positively, let her go for the better, when she decide to think the important and the caring of what you've given her, she will wake up and come back to you...
God have eye to see n he will help you, but you have to do what is necessary...
All the best my friend...
2006-12-10 14:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife reminds me of my mother. She's been raining blows and verbal abuse on my father since I was a kid. Your wife might have been brought up in an unhappy household like my mother. Unless she reconciles with her past and seek professional anger management sessions, you'll continue to suffer at her hands.
And if you have kids in future, you aren't going to be her only victim. Your kids will suffer too. I know because I have an equally dysfunctional family. I dread living in my own house and I can't wait to move out. I'm exasperated because I won't know when my mother will erupt and my father suffers again. In fact, I'm embarassed to tell my boyfriend about the problems that my family has been facing all these years. Somehow, the children are always the ones to bear the sins of their parents.
I do hope you bring your wife to seek professional help because you won't want to be in my father's shoes in future and your kids end up despising your wife.
2006-12-09 03:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by citrusy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to press charges, and you need to get away from her. This is very sad, no one deserves to be treated in this manner. It is unfair and she needs some counseling. Then you can decide if you want to be with her after she receives some help. This is not a good situation to continue on in. You should get away as fast as you can. No one deserves to be treated with such disrespect and abuse. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-09 02:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Physically protecting yourself is not the answer. You need to just get out of this relationship and move on, or both of you get counseling and try to work through the problem.
2006-12-09 02:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by jerrycarr99029 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a society in which egocentricity, self-gratification, narcissism, and selfishness are glorified, it has become more and more difficult to establish good relationships of any kind. People want desperately to find closeness and warmth, but they have forgotten the art of sharing, of communicating and cooperating, of adjusting. They have forgotten that lasting relationships require patience and forbearance. What is more, such relationships require concern and consideration, and even sacrifice.
2006-12-09 02:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your wife needs to see a shrink she sound sick. If that don't help get out man! Have a bit of pride!!
2006-12-09 02:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by The Jesus, Mohammed Buddha GIMP 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's only going to get worse.
2006-12-09 02:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋