3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting serious. She was very upset, but I insisted and I didnt see her for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but she finaly took me back.We were happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not. I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from her gym and someone from her work (at different times), she she had regular sex with both, until they both broke it off her. she was hurt by them using and dumping her as well as me rejecting her. Im jealous, but I know i hurt her too. we have discussed the details, though it is hard. this way i let her know it is ok to talk about how she was hurt,but also about how she enjoyed the sex, which she tells me she did, she has even told me new things i can try in bed with her...
2006-12-09 01:54:04 · 9 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you are very liberal. if you can enjoy what she shares, then go for it. I am impressed with your ability to overcome. good luck.
2006-12-09 02:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is able to freely talk to you about what happened with those guys, she is genuinely being open and honest and thats what counts now. I know that what u may have heard has hurt you but the honesty between both of u now is whats most important and if anything, will bring you closer. I admire the fact you gave her an opportunity to talk and let her know that it was ok to be open, thats huge in a relationship. The worst thing is feeling like u cant be open with someone u love. As for the new ideas for intimacy, have an open mind and give it a try. Everyone has their limits as to what they will and wont be comfortable with in the bedroom. Again, if u guys can communicate about what u do and dont like, your intimacy will only get better and more intense! I wish you guys the best of luck for the future.
2006-12-09 02:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by CuRIouS_CoUGaR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can do better. Sounds like she's not ready for a serious relationship with anybody, not to mention the fact that she sounds kind of promiscuous (regular sex with both?).
Look for a gal who wants a committed, healthy relationship.
2006-12-09 01:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's not telling you everything and the other reasons why she dated and slept with those two guys. Maybe she really missed and wanted to feel the love of a guy again since you couldn't give it to her for some time.
2006-12-09 02:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you was on a Break.But you still get thumbs up from me.you was the mature one in this matter.But can you really be ok with her sleeping with 2 men in a months time?Talk it all out but if you are ok with don't bring the 2 guys up again.Good Luck
2006-12-09 01:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you crazy? At first it was your fault but ok if you accept her dont talk about how much she enjoyed it.
2006-12-09 02:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either you get over it or you don't .........it won't work if you don't get over it .You aren't married so she was free to do what she wanted. So remember that .
2006-12-09 01:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump her, no respect for you
2006-12-09 01:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wear a rubber dude, she's a ho
2006-12-09 01:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Y!um 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋