i love the fact that im pregnant but every time my baby kicks, i feels sad and depressed, but i dont want to feel like this.. .
i had a miscarrage in june of this year and got pregnant again in july, do you think its because i didnt give myself time to grieve the loss of my last baby?
2006-12-09 01:39:51 · 8 answers · asked by lilly_bud 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Prenancy is a b.i.t.c.h. Honestly pregnancies just dont go according to plan and yes miscarrying a baby will mean you are grieving... allow yourself to have and own your feelings of sadness and depression... they are normal responses.
Being pregnant now mean you are dealiing with a double dose of feelings... you are still going through the grief of the miscarriage .... and your emotions will be all over the place because of the hormones from your present preganncy...
Get yourself to a good counsellor... one who understands that miscarriage is a loss like any other loss... and one who understands the emotional mess that pregnancy can cause...
Some support and guidance right now will help you deal with both sitautions and will also offset the possibility of post natal depression... later..
Talk to the hospital where you are getting your pregancy care from and ask for a referral to a psychologist.... if you are in Australia psychologists visits are now bulk billed throgh medicare if you get a referall by a doctor.
2006-12-09 07:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your depression is as a result of the events of your life , hence you have reactive depression. no sane person can loose a baby and not feel grief.
what you need right now is calm restful reassurance that your doing extremely well. you also need additional reassurance that is real from the medical doctor who is looking after you and your baby.
i tell you this you are a person who is taking a very advanced test right now . the reason for the advanced test is because you are totally capable of passing the test . once this test has finished you will find more tests one after another yet not one of them will be more then you can take. if you ask for the help of the lord Jesus Christ. this life thing is for us humans a really confusing thing but i am positive that if you and me and anyone else will just pick up the map that is Christ we will get to the point where we will rest understand never be hungry worried sad
hurt mixed up and not for a single moment ever will we feel that we are not in a state of love that is beyond all understanding.
i will pray to God asking Jesus to provide you with additional help . i do that even though i know he will not give you a test that you can not pass.
i so wish i could wave my hand and remove from you all sadness sorrow and pain. but i am not the one to do it sorry
2006-12-09 04:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me last year I had a m/c in June and got pregnant in July and I was a lil depressed and I really blamed myself for the miscarriage...It was my 2nd pregnancy and I wanted it so bad I was very upset and it was very hard to get over!! but once I gave birth to my now 8 month old son I was so happy! Find a support group or even a counselor...having someone to talk to is really nice! Also surround yourself with positive people...Good Luck
2006-12-09 03:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by atchisons2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 00:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it was wise for you to get pregnant again after losing the previous child. I am sorry that happened to you. I think because when you feel the movement of your child, it makes you think of what that used to be before. I don't think now is the time to have the baby. But if you are really content with yourself, then go ahead, I wish you all the luck. My thing is when your child comes into the world, are you prepared to take care of him or her? Without feeling depressed or unhappy? Sad people shouldn't take care of babies at all because having a child can be emotionally draining during those periods.
2006-12-09 02:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by spyder90tishuez 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being pregnant can give rise to a number of emotions, whether you like it or not. Your hormones are in chaos there. This is my first pregnancy as well and I've realised that horrible, sad, depressing thoughts and feelings had surfaced. I'm very lucky to have an understanding partner by my side who always reassured my mind and quell my irrational emotions and thoughts.
Don't blame yourself in this. Babies are gifts from God. If God takes one from you, He gives one for you.
Congratulations and all the best....
2006-12-09 01:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to grieve if that's what you need. Pregnancy is a time for celebration and happiness along with other feelings...Hormones play a big part in your moods during pregnancy. Try excersising, that may help make you feel better. And if you feel that down...go talk to someone! Good luck!
2006-12-09 01:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by trlyblesst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you really an adolescent?
2006-12-09 03:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by Waverly Pascale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋