3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting serious. She was very upset, but I insisted and I didnt see her for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but she finaly took me back.We were happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not. I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from her gym and someone from her work (at different times), she she had regular sex with both, until they both broke it off her. she was hurt by them using and dumping her as well as me rejecting her. Im jealous, but I know i hurt her too. we have discussed the details, though it is hard. this way i let her know it is ok to talk about how she was hurt,but also about how she enjoyed the sex, which she tells me she did, she has even told me new things i can try in bed with her...
2006-12-09 01:38:04 · 23 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that is your fault. you might never ask her back???? how would she know that you still love her, most ppl ask for time off and never get back.
just love her and enjoy her love for you. and my advice is marry her.
2006-12-09 02:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should have asked her about her romantic life while you guys were "not together" – that’s a no no.
Are you more upset because she was sexually active or that you were not?
I'm not sure why she would share the details with you but I would say probably to make you jealous.
If you guys want to try at a committed & monogamous relationship together then you must forgive each other and move on. Take it easy.
If you have not been in this relationship for a long time and have not invested a lot and you give it one more shot and you have problems again…it’s probably best you end it.
If it comes to ending the relationship for good, I would recommend you take some time off think about what you want in a mate & relationship and start dating.
Good Luck!
p.s. use double protection & get tested
2006-12-09 01:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Min 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you were not together, by your choice. So, this is not an issue. Your feelings may be hurt. However, I am guessing that so was she. And this is why she sought out other people to be involved with. Seems as though this was her way of dealing with it. Not exactly the way I would of dealt with it, however, many people choose to deal with a break up in this manner, quickly find someone to fill the spot, trying to forget. You really need to get over it, you put her out there. So, if you really want to be with her, and you love her. You will need to put this to the side and not bring it up not try and make her feel guilty for what you made happen. In life there are always a series of choices, and actions. A action will cause a reaction, this was the reaction, now you have to suck it up and move on. She in her mind, probably really thought the relationship was over, and she was trying to get over you and this is the way she choose. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-09 02:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it goes like this. she had sex with other ppl. big deal u all wasnt a item. Why are u jealous about that? May it because u didnt have sex with other when u wasnt a item? women likes attention and plus she was hurt by what u did and she thought it would help her and she felt loved by those guys the need she needed that she wasnt getting from u at the time. A person can only be used if aloud to be used. Its good to talk about it, but it's done and over with. thats apart of the past. u need to move on with or with out her. If u cant handle that your relationship aint going to work. just remember she didnt cheat on u. so dont bring it up again. she with u not them.
2006-12-09 01:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by wishstar28 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you were broke up. Officially not together. What she did was not whils she was in a relationship with you. If you did not wnat her seeing anyone else you should not have broken up with her. The best thing you can do is get over it. She had a learning experience while you were broken up and you cn use it to your advantage. If you are going to dwell on the fact that she did not wait for you fter you dumped her you need to get a life. If you were married and separated for a breif time the situation would be different. To me it sounds more like you ar hurt because she didn't sit around eating roaky road ice cream waiting on you to call her. News flash. Women do not do that any more. Yeah sure wemay have a time where we are upset and have to think things throguh. We may even havethe ice cream but we also realize life goes on and it minus well be with us. So get over yourself. If she gives you a suggestion discuss it maybe even try it. YOU might like it.
2006-12-09 01:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tia Dalma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean you can't be mad...you asked for space. She did not know if you were going to come back or what. Are you just mad cause she gave the goods to someone else and you did not? Was she suppose to stay "pure" for you? No, but at least she is being honest that is all that you can ask for. Move on get over it what is done is done. Everything happens for a purpose. Maybe she was doing that to fill the void of you hurting her so that she would not have to deal with the pain head-on. But you guys are back together and everything happens for a reason. Let go...let flow...let love.
2006-12-09 01:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were you trying to test her? If you told her you didn't want to see her what did you expect her to do, wait for you? I'm sure if it was the other way around and she dumped you, you wouldn't have waited for her. For all she knew you were out doing the same thing. I don't think you are wrong for getting jealous (that is human nature) about it but it would be wrong if you bother her about it and criticize her. If she wants to talk about it then ok, but don't force it on her if she isn't ready. You've asked this same question several times and I don't think you're going to get the answer you want. She was single and free to do whatever she wanted. As the saying goes, You can't have your cake and eat it too.
2006-12-09 01:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that I've answer this question before., but my opinion on it . you broked it off because you wanted space. so what she did in between that time should not effect your relationship now. or what you did shouldn't either. you were not together at the time, so the best thing that you can do is to forget about and move up to now. and forget the past.
2006-12-09 01:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have sex w/other people while you are seperated, it should've been agreed upon up front. If she thought you guys were permanently split, than she can do whatever she wants. But if she was under the impression that the seperation was temporary, you guys should've come to some kind of agreement about dating other people.
2006-12-09 01:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you realize what you have and what you feel when you lose it or are close to losing it. You have no right to be jealous whatsoever--you're the one who wanted the "time off"
2006-12-09 01:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you whining because your girl rode someone else's baloney pony. that's life. it's not like she was married to you. stop acting like a little beeyatch. you aren't the only game in town.
and btw, of course she enjoyed the sex. who doesn't
2006-12-09 01:47:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋