Both dislike each others.I can not live without them because my wife is my social requirement and also is mother of my two sons whereas my beloved is my life as she runs in my veins.What should I do? Only serious answers please....
2006-12-09 01:26:19 · 27 answers · asked by ulfat_kamal 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
What your wife doesnt like your Mother?????
2006-12-09 01:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Aye yi yi. That's not good.
They dislike each other? Is it because they really don't like each other personally? Is it because they're jealous of each other? Does your beloved respect your wife's relationship with you and vice versa?
Since there are three of you, and you're at the center, I think you're going to have to do a couple of things. One is the examination of your own soul. How important is it to you to maintain both of these relationships, and have you conducted your relations with both of these women by moving at a pace that is comfortable for the least comfortable person....and then even slower. And why do you speak of your wife as your "social requirement"? Do you love this woman or not? IMHO, polyamory works if you love, honor and respect *all* your relationships.
Once you've done some serious looking into yourself, you will be in a better place to do the next very difficult thing: have a conversation with your wife *and* your beloved. I'm going to assume both women know about each other, right?
Hmmmm. Maybe I shouldn't have made that assumption?
If they know each other, and don't like each other, this is going to be an even harder talk. But you need to get resolution as to whether you will be able to maintain both relationships, or will one or the other tell you they want exclusivity. And then, unfortunately, you will be pushed to choose. On the other hand, you can try to work this out with both women...respect their boundaries and demand some respect for yours, too...and slow the pace down (see above about moving at the speed of the least comfortable...and even slower).
On the other hand....if you have been carrying on with your beloved, and your wife does NOT know about her, well....you've been cheating. And that, even in polyamorous relationships, is a big ol' NO-NO!
Hope that helps, and good luck.
2006-12-09 01:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by FL LMT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are insulting both women. How would you like it if your wife had a lover and called you a 'social requirement'!? Why, if either of the women love or like you, would they like each other? You need to make a choice. Either divorce your wife so that she doesn't have to put up with the humiliation any more and make a go of it with your 'beloved' or treat your wife with more respect bu not cheating on her and let your 'beloved' get herself a proper man that isn't just using her as his bit on the side. Don;t be so selfish, that is not a social requirement!
2006-12-09 01:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by lianhua 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife is a "requirement" (social and domestic use), while thoughts of the other woman course through your veins. Seems like you're using them both - sorry if that's not what you want to hear. You need to decide what sort of man you are first. I'd advise to go with (and be faithful to) the woman who makes you the happiest. If that means leaving your wife, then so be it - although you'll be aware of the financial implications that will apply. If you simply can't leave your wife then dump the other.
2006-12-09 01:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by kitten_brunette_gemini 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you let your wife go? She may just be a social requirement to you but she can go and live a full and happy life without you and also you said she is the mother of your children she would be a lot happier not being used by you and there for your children would be happier, fact.......stop being a selfish user and stand on your own two feet I wish they would both dump you. What kind of father and role model are you? not a very good one in my opinion how can you treat your babies mother like that? look at what you are teaching them.
Grow up!
2006-12-09 01:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by cheetarrz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. if social requirement is most important, stick with wife.
2. if heart is more important, stick with beloved.
3. i think wife is going to make decision for you soon.
i was in similar situation 18 years ago and chose to trade in a wife and 1 child for an older wife and 3 children. my workmate asked what would i do if it didn't work out. i told him that i was a big boy and would have to live with the result.
you are the one to live with the decision, but if beloved means so much, go that way and good luck to you. just be a big boy and be prepared to live with the result.
2006-12-09 01:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by stucco_bill 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should have thought of that before you got married. Yet again, a man who marries a "wife" and not the woman he loves. Grow up for starters and stop living your life for others.
Your cultural has taught you to have "a wife" and a "lover". The two should be the same person. I, and I suspect, the majority of people who like a simple life based on truth won't have any sympathy for you.
YOU have created complications in your life. It is up to YOU to fix them.
2006-12-09 04:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
R u 4 real man! U r a 2 timing bxxxxxd. uU kids deserve so much better. U r so selfish. Think abt some1 else 4 once. If u didn't like ur wife in da first place den y did u go nd have kids. U make me sick. I hope u end up lonely. How wuld u like it if some1 did that 2 u? U wouldn't, would u. Didn't think so myself.
2006-12-09 01:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by beckham 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-14 08:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mess up the kids a little more. What a jerk. Keep thinking with the wrong head you will soon be out of a wife, kids and piece. If you divorce the bit on the side won't want you anymore. The kids won't want you. Too bad you reproduced.
2006-12-09 01:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Serious answer... Your a cheating C*NT. Your wife is your social requirement? What the f*ck does that mean? Your facing hardship? Ah, poor you, I hope you end up with nothing on your own and lonely.
2006-12-09 01:32:11 · answer #11 · answered by Wings 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋