I've been engaging in a "friends with benefits" relationship off and on for about 9 years now. It started out as friends who were very attracted to each other, and as time progressed the physical aspects of our relationship increased. We've never actually had a relationship with each other, although we've been in many long term relationships throughout the duration of our arrangement (although this rarely halted our hook ups). When we are together, it reaches incredible levels of natural intimacy. However immediately following this experience, he disengages completely from being a friend, aquaintence, or lover. He'll disapear for weeks on end with no word. I've become accustomed to this, although I don't really understand it. It's not that I want a relationship with him, I got over that a long time ago. I do enjoy the "friends with benefits" when its working, but I am having a hard time with the loss of the friendship in the off time. I guess my question is, what is going on?
2006-12-09 01:24:12 · 7 answers · asked by lrnscs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like your needs are now stronger and deeper than his are. You could tell him how you feel the loss of friendship during the time he is away. But this is what happens when a relationship has no bond or commitment.
2006-12-09 01:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...you probably don't want my bold opinion on this, so I'll try to keep it as nice as possible. First of all, does the thought that you are cheating on your boyfriends ever occur to you? Second, I don't even believe in sex outside of marriage, but for those of you who do, at least do it with somebody that you love. It's not this has happened a couple of times...9YEARS...go get a man who loves you and sticks around when the playin' is done.
2006-12-09 01:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are more in love with him than he is you. You both are testing waters. Only you know whether to hold on or not. He has shown you what to expect from him. The only way he will come to you and stay is if his partner ends the relationship they have. And he wants you to hold for him. But he loves you enough to let you be free to do as you need. Like you do him. Make sense?
2006-12-09 01:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Even in a FWB courting, one consistently finally ends up feeling extra effective than they predicted. emotions replace. the terrific element of do is talk approximately it! in case you or he feels uncomfortable with this set up now, you will possibly desire to debate the place to bypass from right here.
2016-10-14 08:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gotten out of the relationship what you expected
there is nothing wrong with this type of arrangement
2006-12-09 01:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's got other "interests" with benefits.
2006-12-09 01:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋