i dont know what i have this feeling right now,i admit im still inluv my husband eventhough he gave me a lot of pain and heartache.sometimes i cant help it to cry especially when when im looking a happy family.My husband betrayed me and cheted me alot of times and now he is living with somebody.he wants to come back with me again but i didnt accept him because everytime im thinking of all the pain he gave to me i feels like he crashing my heart.The LAST TIME i talked to him i said dont call me anymore and dont bother my life and my kids anymore and i told him that i will not push him anymore for the childsupport for our kids,because his not really responsible father for my kids and he also have kids with the other girl,not this new girl.but the mother of his two kids in states they are separated now and have a new one in his life now.i didint know all about this until his mother told me that.i was so stupid i admit it just that i trusted him so much.how can i move on with this?
2006-12-09 00:50:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow!!!! What hell you must be going through!
I will have to agree with the first answer. Unfortunately you married a man that was a cheater and you didn't no it. Buckle down, get a job, seek support from the government and also seek support from him.
The government will pay but they will also look for him and then go after the support that they have paid.
It may be tough but you got to do what is the best for you and your kids. The first thing for you to do is get in contact with Health and Welfare...they don't mess around with this. He doesn't pay, he is in jail (if they find him) and he is in a world of hurt. I'm not saying this for you to intentionally hurt him but he has got to take some responsibility.
Time for you to move on....
Best wishes for you!
2006-12-09 01:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to show this guy that you mean business!! Look he cheated on you and he is with someone else and trying to get back with you....ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!! You need to turn your focus on your children. You GET childsupport for your children. It takes two to make them and he was there and it is only right that he pays. Don't let him off easy, the more you take him back the stronger his hold becomes on your heart. I did the same thing with my ex-husband. He cheated and I forgave him over and over again. Then one day I got smart and said you know I look good and there are plenty of fish in the sea. So I dolled myself up and he ate his heart out. You doll yourself up and let him know what he just lost. Stand your ground...you are not a carpet and should not be walked on by any man. NO man is worth your kids seeing you in pain!! If you want your kids to treat their spouses like that stay...becuase a child builds a relationship as they seen when they were growing up. Just imagine for a minute if you will...How many other women he slept with while he was with you, and how many he slept with while he is with the other, and so on...then take that number and that is now how many people you have now slept with. HE IS A CREEP DROP HIM LIKE A HOT MATCH...there is someone else out there waiting for you!!
2006-12-09 01:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is no good you should just forget about him! Your kids and you are number one! The kids dont need to be around him and you have to do what is best for them and yourself! If he has cheated in the past he will do it again and again and think he can get away with it if you keep taking him back! Stand your ground and refuse to have anything to do with him.
2006-12-09 01:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ria, you will just have to reach way down in your inner strengths, and muster up the courage to move on in your life. It will not be easy, but you CAN do it. Congratulations on your standing up to him, and making the abuse stop. You will have to get a job, no doubt, to support the kids, but that's okay too. Good Luck!!
2006-12-09 00:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋