I would like to file for a divorce. I have a baby abt 8mth old. I am not working at the moment, (quited my job when I was pregnant). My husband and I don't see eyes to eyes ever since our baby is born. I felt stressed out by him. So does he. He always threathen me with words like, "If you don't came back today, I will throw yr things out, You can leave the house". etc etc...
I like to find out the how to win the custody of my baby. Will I get my baby even I am not working?
Can I ask for Alimony?
2006-12-09 00:31:16 · 11 answers · asked by Cest la vie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to a lawyer
2006-12-09 01:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bringing a baby into the house is very stressful for both parents. Hold off on the divorce and get some counselling.
by the way, where are you when he is threatening to throw your stuff out?
when he goes to work for 8 hours or more he is working. So are you. You should get some breaks when the baby is napping but maybe you use this time to do something else like play here, on answers.
When he comes home, let him have a few minutes of quiet before handing him the baby and leaving the house for your quiet time. seems neither of you are grown up enough to take care of a baby. you need to talk this out not run for the divorce and whatever money child suport may bring.
2006-12-09 00:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Lose the "D" word from your vocabulary. It is a huge change in a relationship when a child is introduced. At 8 months, you are still trying to learn. Everything has changed, maybe not on the outside, but the inside. You can get through this, I promise. If you loved him enough to marry him, then loved him enough to have a baby, how can you consider that 8 months of stress and you want to throw it away. Take the money for your lawyer, look for a marriage counselor. Learn how to make time for each other in a way that you did early in the relationship. This is usually where the change is found. You don't feel respected or important, he may not feel the same but your communication isn't being spoken in a meaningful way to allow you to understand. Your relationship will be much stronger if you make the decision to get through this time. FIRST, loose that "D" word and never speak it again. Good Luck!!
2006-12-09 00:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by spag 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can request alimony, but I doubt that you'd get it. Alimony is traditionally for the homemaker who didn't have any work skills and wasn't able to get a job due to the traditional structure of marriage at the time alimony was invented. If you voluntarily quit your job, then it's going to be hard to prove that you are unable to find employment.
Custody is awarded to the more fit parent. The courts generally favor the mother, so I doubt that you'd lose custody unless you have a history of being unable to care for the baby.
You should definitely seek child support. That will help defray the costs of raising the baby.
Good luck!
2006-12-09 00:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the custody of a child is awarded to the mother usless she is found unfit. The working mate has to pay all expensives and they usually share the same lawyer.
Alimony used to be given to a woman after she was married for 10 years. I do believe that they have done away with alimony altogether now. Child support is still granted in every state.
2006-12-09 00:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are variations from state to state. I was fortunate enough to be able to get an "uncontested" divorce. This only works when both partners are agreeable on most issues. Call a lawyer who handles divorce. They will usually consult with you for the first time for free. The lawyer will walk you through it step by step and describe possible costs. I'm very sorry your marriage has come to this. I advise you make sure your marriage is beyond repair before you go through with divorce.
2016-05-22 22:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Good morning.
I always hate to hear about couples breaking up with a baby, have both of you tried counseling, or is it too late? You should get separate attorneys Usually the mother gets the baby unless you have done something very, very bad.It is according to what STATE you live in, that is the BIG ISSUE.You could get child support and alimony.
2006-12-09 00:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ms; sounds like you two were not ready to have a baby. How were things before ? If you see no way out then contact legal aid. You can get your baby and support money. You two may want to sit down and talk first. Sounds like you two are simply missing your freedom. Maybe talk to a parent.
2006-12-09 00:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call a good lawyer - all of the above depends on what state you live in. OH and get a job. You want to start now showing that you are a good responsible parent who has the ways and means to care of the child.
2006-12-09 00:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by T C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first one to file for divorce is always granted custody until the case goes to court. in most cases, yes, you may ask for alimony, and in most cases you will get it. but then again, it all boils down to what the court decides. in filing first, you can also have him evicted....good luck
2006-12-09 00:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by bugger_nsox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to a divorce lawyer, he will be the best adviser.
2006-12-09 00:35:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋