I have a buddy who thinks that a woman's guard is more down at a coffee shop, since they don't expect to get hit on (his reasoning). Even though his track record proves him wrong (he has hooked up a handful of times at clubs/bars but zero times at a coffee shop as far as I know), he sticks to his guns. I say that the alcohol flowing in bars has been, is, and always will be the ultimate drug to bring a woman's guard down, make her more receptive to "hooking up." Coffee, on the other hand - not so much.
Also, over the past few years, my buddy can't seem to last much longer than 10pm or so, since he has a job that requires him to get up at 5am M-F. I think this is why he leans toward the coffee shop thing, but it still doesn't make sense to me.
2006-12-09 00:14:33 · 5 answers · asked by DM 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Maggie, this question was posed to kind of settle a bet, not to play a woman-hunting game. By the way, I don't think there are many men out there who haven't wondered what the best place is to pick up a woman... Get real!
2006-12-09 00:34:23 · update #1
i would have to say a coffe shop. its a more relaxed atmoshere.
at a bar or club, you got a lot of drunks and players
2006-12-09 00:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by corey 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋
If a woman wants to be "picked up" she will get "picked up". Alcohol does make one less inhibited and more easy going but I don't think that it should be made a game of in either case scenario. Do you not have better things to think about or worry about other than the best spots to land a woman? Typical Men!
2006-12-09 00:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In a way, a woman's 'guard' might be up MORE in a coffee shop since she's not expecting a stranger to come up to her and talk to her while, in a bar, let's face it. People are expecting to be hitting on folks and being hit on. Women might be flattered in a bar if a guy offers to buy her a drink while, in a coffee shot, she's going to wonder what's going on.
I see where he's coming from on this but I can also see why he's not that successful.
2006-12-09 16:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie Blue 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You need to understand that women do not have the biological need to have sex, like men do. {i.e. The constant build-up of sperm that have to go somewhere.} When we are somewhere, doing something to relax, or doing a job such as laundry{yuck} or grocery shopping, etc.., we are generally NOT thinking about sex, and do not want to be bothered with it. From my understanding, bars are usually the place where people go to hit on, and be hit on. Unfortunately for most men, most women do not care for one night stands, and the ones that do, have probably learned to be very careful about whom they choose to go out with.
2006-12-11 07:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by It's Complicated 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A woman's guard is more down at a coffee shop but, on the other hand, sluts looking for a good time (and thus open to being approached) are more likely to be in a bar.
Women who are in the bar/club are more likely to have gone there looking to hook up and, thus, are more receptive.
2006-12-09 00:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋