why do bullies get away with bullying?....?

Answer 1

Because often their vicitms are too scared to complain and, if they do, they aren't taken seriously

Answer 2

I think part of the reason bullies get away with their behavior is because bullying is so much more subtle than when I was growing up and the stereotype of the bully has not changed.

You could almost draw what the bully would look like when I was a kid. Male, large in stature, dresses poorly, stood alone at the end of the playground, waiting to take lunch money from kids with physical force.

Kids are so much more sophisticated these days. Bullying is much more subtle these days. Kids use exclusion, rumor and the internet to get to people. Rules are made by what you wear, how you act, who you hang out with in school. Kids can be exiled to the point where they feel they should never return to school. It happens out in the open. It happens among girls more than boys in my opinion. It is personal, vicious and mentally painful, much more than ever before.

In some ways, I also think it is nearly impossible to stop. Teachers have very little control over inclusion, especially when it involves social groups outside of school. They can force children to cooperate, they cannot enforce acceptance, which is such a huge part of today's bullying.

I do think however, they need to become more aware of things children are saying and watch for subtle signs of bullying. They need to be careful they do not add to the problem to gain acceptance from their students. I am a nurse who does one to one home care. I went to school with my client. I watched teachers and teachers assistants who would publicly scold the less popular kids in the classroom and say nothing when other students commented negatively about him. I feel they did it to receive acceptance from their students. I also feel they encouraged the bullying the child suffered.

This is a complicated problem that may not be completely solvable. I don't think it means we should not try.

Answer 3

Because people stay silent, or 'half tell' the truth. In order to fully wipe out the bullying behaviour, all the adults and caring friends in the victim's life need to know all the true details; where, when, how, why...

Due to fear (that they'll be 'got'- and if they half tell- for example leaving out henchmen, that can happen) and pain about 93% of bullying is never fully reported. I have approached kids (and asked their parents to ask them) and they've denied it. Of course, without a complaint, no one can do anything.

SECRETS are the birth place of all bullying- playground, home, workplace, relationship-based. Once trapped in silence, people can be stuck their for life.

Also- people just punish the bully, without thinking 'what is MAKING this kid do this?'. If they don't get some training to deal with anger or psychological help, they'll stop bullying the victim they got caught with, but just end up bullying someone else down the line. Bullies need help- they have issues- these need to be sorted (as well as punishment) to truly stop the violence.

The other side is 'crying wolf'. There is always one kid who confuses someone not liking them and dealing with it politely (ie by just not playing with them) with bullying, or who exaggerates stories. This annoys their friends, leading them to be (perhaps) on their own ... a bully targets them, they try to tell but because they cried wolf, people react slower.

Answer 4

In my experience from my four children, it is because its easier not to rock the boat.

As an example, my 14 year old son was assaulted on his way home, by six boys. Next day his guidance teacher asked him,
"Now xxxxxxx, what did you do to upset them?"

Non PC, I know, but the only way to deal with bullies is to bully them right back. Wrap it up in what ever fluffy terminology you want, but that's the only answer.

By this I mean, inform the school, or other organisation, and then call the police.

They will either buckle, or will eventually be the victim themselves, hopefully in prison.

Incidentally on the subject of fighting back, reasonable force for self defence, under English law has never meant running away.

Answer 5

Bullies get away with bullying because the fearful go on with fearing.Just think is the life worth living with always looking over your shoulder. Actually when even a cat turns back snarling the dog runs away with his tail between its hind legs.

Answer 6

in most places.(school/worrks etc.) someone will take on the role of the loud mouth that intimidates people. iv found if that person leaves he next loudest person will take over or if someone more confident comes along the original "bully" will talk less. im sure its always happened and always will.


ps. apple crumble^^ bullies are usually people who do feel how they make others feel. ie bullies at school often have a hard time at home .

Answer 7

Because too many people think that it's necessary part of childhood. Also, people have become too lax in dealing with kids and it's not just bullies getting away with stuff.

Answer 8

A bully talks bullytalk, to stop this behaviour you have to make a strong statement. If its verbal, talk back. If its physical , cause pain !

Answer 9

im not a bully but they get away with it cos people are scared of them

Answer 10

They always get away with their physical size but never with their brains in planet of apes.
With time they ended up living in misery in planet of apes.

Answer 11

cause no one stands up to them, when i was getting bullied i stood up for myself and reported it to my year head, it stopped and never happened again.