My hubby secretly watches porn sites on computer,i know and it bugs me very much.what should i do?

Question

otherwise he is a loyal person i am afraid that if he continues visiting these sites he may end up dating with somebody,afterall it's human nature to explore.

Answer 1

If you have a good communication with him,talk with him, with good manners (never fighting),and ask him why he need to watch porn.
Communication is always the key; to make a relationship good and stronger.Many men watch porn,because porn put them on.Some women do the same,to be on.But really at the end men and women become addicts to porn.And become addicts to porn damage and hurts the marriage.Also some men and women after became addicts to porn,do not have the same interest or desires for sex at the marriage.Talk with him.Good question.

Answer 2

Years back then I was running Windows 98, I would look at porn sites. My wife asked me what I did when I was on the internet. I told her I played games, e-mail, stuff like that

She knew nothing about the internet and I would always clear the history...usually anyway. A friend showed her on her computer to look at the history of where I've been. She found out and was mad. She didn't like porn.

One night we went to a neighborhood bar to play pool and she got a little drunk. When she gets feeling good, she gets frisky. As we walked home she said she wanted me to boot up the computer while she went upstairs to change. I brought it up and when she came back she had on her big bath robe.

She pulled up a chair and told me to go to the sites I knew about that showed porn. A little shocked but I did whatshe ask. I also asked her why an she said she was curious.

What she saw made her really frisky and when she took of her robe, she was naked. Needless to say...it was the best sex we had in a long time. It turned her on and we tried several things that she saw on the internet.

Sure it's okay to explore but when you drive your car, only park it in the garage at home.

Give it a try...it may work for you like it did for her.

Answer 3

The first thing you need to do is get over the spying on him. If he is doing it 'secretly' you obviously are being sneaky to find it out. Trust is a beautiful thing in a marriage.
Secondly, is he the kind of man that would cheat? Really evaluate the answer to that. Many women think their men would cheat, when they in fact wouldn't, because they are projecting their own insecurities onto their men. NOT all, just many.
Now, that said, does looking at a painting make him a painter? Does watching a sunset make him set himself on fire?
Looking at porn is an awful lot like looking at a catalog, you aren't necessarily going to buy, but it is nice to see what is out there.

Answer 4

As long as you are reaping the benefits and your hubby never gave you reason before to think he may be looking at these porn sites to meet other women, then stop worrying about it. My fiance watches porn continually all day, but when it comes down to it, it's me that he turns to for gratification. I don't worry about his porn watching and I trust him 150% around other women. If you don't trust your hubby, then that's not much of a relationship.

Answer 5

I guess, you can try to talk to him and tell him it bothers you when he does it secretly. Depending on how open your communication is, you can tell him, it is ok if he visits such sites with you around (i mean if that is ok with you). The fact that he does it secretly means he thinks it is awkward for you to do that with you around. I mean it's not like he wanted to have an affair with other women but i guess men just want to fantasize a lot about sex. We can't change that.
If it's ok with you, you can join him and try to understand what makes it interesting for him to view porn sites (no offense). You know, just to try some kinky stuffs.

Answer 6

Come on already. He's loyal, he doesn't step out on you, he just likes looking at something different in order to keep his rockets firing. He's doing YOU a favor by keeping his sexual appetite strong so he can service YOUR needs, and you're complaining about it? Try watching some porn with him, and then use your mouth for something besides nagging for a change.

Answer 7

If you know he is visiting these websites, it means that you are spying on him and this is not good. It would be better if you tell him how you feel and try to work things out as mature adults should do. Communication is the key to your question. If it bugs you so much, let him know. Maybe you will be suprised of his answer and can work things out. Good luck.

Answer 8

A bigger worry, depending on your professions, is "what if you get investigated for something?" Even a false accusation and your computer is confiscated? All that nasty stuff is STILL THERE! What if he accidently logs onto a child porn site? Tell him that.
An even more realistic worry is that these porn sites carry viruses! It happened to me (my teenaged son) and my neice (her adult brother) and we both had to undergo EXPENSIVE computer repair! I don't believe it was coincidence. Both parties are now banned from using our computers. I have a password I never reveal now. Tell hubby about that too.

Answer 9

Have you tried talking with him about it? Why does it bother you? If he promises that he's not giong to have sex with anybody else, would it still bother you? Don't you want to look at the porn together, it could spice up your relationship! Do you think he looks at porn so much that it is becoming a problem?

Answer 10

Don't have that. Speak to him immediately about it, and have something that will equally concern him about it. Have to have some leverage that will WANT him to stop those sites. It can be an addiction if it grows and grows and grows, and that's the last thing you want or need.

Don't make excuses for why it's okay, or why I'm going to allow it to go on another day, or it's only this or only that....because it's only going to grow like a snowball going downhill...immediately speak to him regarding this.