she said that she just was not happy in our relationship so this person is a companion to her and that she met this person about 3 months ago and had been keeping it from me now she wants a divorce what do i do?
2006-12-08 23:25:42 · 23 answers · asked by jrgimp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that anytime someone says they want a divorce, if you keep them, you are going to be in a weakened, unequal position. So, even if you had her- you won't really have her.
Ask her if she is sure- it's important. Does she know what is involved in a divorce? What were the reasons you got together in the first place? I'm gonna say bro, I think she's been cheating on you if she has a friend and is brave enough to ask for a divorce.
I just don't understand why people get married. All I hear is pain or at the best people tolerating each other.
2006-12-08 23:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, people dont want divorces over "Just a Friend."
What she's really saying is she's not happy in the relationship.
Talk to her on a friend to friend basis. You two have a life you were building. All that is at stake.
You have a right to know where you stand emotionally, financially, and health-wise. (Is she putting you at risk?)
Then if you want to try to save the marriage, ask her to give it another try. Start asking her every day if there is anything you can do for her. This indicates that you consider her at some point in your day. Speak to her with respect. Respond to what she says to you , don't react. Respond. Treat her better than her "Friend" ever could.
It's possible you've come into this information a little to late, though. If she's dead set on splitting up, then you need to take account of your assets and start figuring out where you will stand financially after a divorce. Figure out who gets the dog. Try to keep communication open so that you both agree on how finances and assests will be divvied up. You may want an in house separation for a time. It seems to keep things on a more even keel, if you can do it.
2006-12-09 09:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you all be friends and save the marriage. You ask the question, but there is more going on then simply your wife meeting someone 3 months ago now she wants a divorce. What in the world have you done to push her into the arms of another man? Be honest with yourself and her if you want to save your marriage.
2006-12-09 07:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, what gave you the right to go snooping through her cell phone numbers? You need to sit down and talk with her about her wanting a divorce. Perhaps you are not doing the things she needs, and that is why she has sought out a relationship with another outside your marriage.
2006-12-09 07:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is very little you can do if she is unwilling to work on the relationship. You could encourage her to attend some marriage counseling and cease all conversations with this man.
Or you could simply allow her to file for divorce and give her a divorce. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-09 07:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have multiple wives? And it sounds like she is already emotionally out of the marriage. I'm sorry. If I were you I would work on disengaging emotionally as well and ask for the divorce myself. You don't have to be left, you can decide when to leave.
Good luck!
2006-12-09 07:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well she lied to you about this person being just a friend if she wants a divorce. There really isn`t much you can do if she wants one, as it sounds as if she has been unfaithful and isn`t interested in staying married any longer. I think you must have known something was wrong or you wouldn`t have been looking on her cell phone to see who she has been talking to. Good luck.
2006-12-09 07:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she has decided she wants a divorce there isn't much you can do. But keeping "just a friends" number and information from you stinks of an affair, emotional at least and maybe full blown.
2006-12-09 07:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is not wise to stay with a person who does not want to be with you. If you can't work it out, get a divorce, move on with life.
2006-12-09 07:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants a divorce give her one. This is the first of many lies and terrible things she will do. Get out now. If you don't have kids be very greatfull!!
2006-12-09 07:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋