we were involved 7years before .he is my classmate because of some misunderstanding he broke up with me & married to another girl but i am still in love with him he had a baby also.now i come to know that he still loves me & he came to me & propose for marraige again now i am in confusion what to do my family did't accept this but i dont want to lose him .please tell me what to do?
2006-12-08 23:15:52 · 41 answers · asked by ammy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if u really love him then don't spoil his and his family,s life just love him by staying away from him and prove that u really love him/care for him
2006-12-09 02:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by sam402ny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A real situation where you have to behave very maturely. Because it involves a family...a wife and a child....seven years before when he broke up he realized he still loved you...then its a question that how he married some other lady. Even if we assume that when he got married he was still in the wind of misunderstanding...but the thing which you have to realize is with the wind of one misunderstanding he once left and got married , had a family and now..is trying to return to you...I agree that the feeling of love might still be there...but the logic says...you should not marry a married man who is still having a wife and a baby.
Ask yourself...if you marry him..he lost nothing...he realized your value but you not. He might be a good man...but you need to convince yourself that your love for him is not physical that you are yearning to be near him and lead a life with him.
You feel that you might not be able to love anyone else more than him...its a delusion...come out of it...face the truth..
Good Luck !!!!
2006-12-08 23:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by Octoberfestin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that if u agree to his praposal then u would be comitting a blunder mistake.u said that he has a baby even if so then its sure that he had loved his wife even for a short period atleast and if u agree to marry him then he will be leaving his wife for u but at the time of misunder standing between u some sort of soft corner may be developed in his heart and he may go back to his family.. And even the situations ver different at the times when u loved him long ago but now the times are changed dont spoil the girls life who is this wife and she has not comitted any mistake to get such a ponishment .Just place u'r self in her place and think dont do injustice to her and even to u'r self if possible go to him and make him realise that now he is already a responsible husband and father of some one .U JUST FIND A BETTER MAN TO U'R SELF AND LEAD A HAPPY LIFE WWWWWWITH HIM .HOPE U'R LIFE WILL BE FILLED WITH A LOTS OF HAPPY NESS
2006-12-08 23:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is using you, because he know you are still in love with him, don't be a fool stay away from him and go look for love some where Elise. Think about it if he would run around on his wife and you get with him he will do the same to u,not much of a future there is there?
2006-12-08 23:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by larry B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'd be crazy to accept. Think about it. If he will cheat on his current wife and go with someone else he will do the same to you some day.
Find a single guy and avoid the drama. Affairs are always great. They break the monotony of life and add exictment however it is fleeing. They are easy to start hard to end, and they rarely end well.
2006-12-08 23:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by John P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u are doing a mistake by involving in a married man.
first of all forget this crazy wish to get married to him, as he is married and has a kid.
If he really loved u before he wouldn't have married the other lady.He would have tried to resolve whatever misunderstanding was there, isn't it? Think about this...
2006-12-08 23:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by asha v 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Ammy!
Every body is telling you, ''NOT TO DESTROY THEIR LIFE'' and "WOULD YOU LIKE TO FACE THE SAME SITUATION''.
So don't B selfish.
Further more he is not the ONLY man in this world. God has created a lot of BESTs, so leave this one for his family an search for some other BEST for you.
One day you'll feel satisfied, rather more happy than this state of life.
My gf didn't walk with me and later on I got married with a lady who is mother of my 3 kids. V R the most happy family in our surroundings. People give examples of our understanding.
2006-12-08 23:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did he divorce his wife before he proposed to you? If he wants to have his family and have you too you are being cheated. Get out of this messy situation and date single men This is the reason why your family didnt accept him. Go away from him.
2006-12-09 00:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am a married man and love an unmarried girl sicne last 4 years.We are deeply in love with each other.Its really hard to love in this contrast i.e married with unmarried vice-versa. Life becomes more miserable for both partner.So i advise to just forget, though its impossible, i know it.
2006-12-09 04:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Almaas Ahmed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up. If you pusue this relationship you will be a home breaker instead of a home maker. Move on whether you want to or not, move on. This man is married, has a family, and I know you don't want to hear it but you are wrong. Leave him alone. You are headed for disaster.
2006-12-08 23:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by MeToo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling and do what the counselor says. You are treading on thin ice and do not want to go this way. Suppose you were to hook up with him. Your now the reason for his parents split up as far as the kid is concerned. Best for you to stay away from him
2006-12-08 23:58:08 · answer #11 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋