My wife and I are getting ready for a divorce after 12 yrs. We have 2 kids and live in Florida. The laws here say evrything in the marriage is equal as in bills after it is over, She wants me to continue living here with her to help raise our kids and pay my share of the property and mortgage per state laws, we would have joint custody evry other weekend would be each others to do as they see fit, the home would be a safe zone for the kids with no one from the opposite sex allowed in or around the house. We both want to do what is best for the kids but is it possible to continue living in the same house and not be married?
2006-12-08 22:51:58 · 11 answers · asked by joefra68 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's possible, but believe me it's going to be really hard. I tried to live with my ex, but if I went with another woman she'd get mad, she always wanted to know where I was still, it's still like being together, it's not healthy
2006-12-08 22:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by zelin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now why are you getting a divorce? Sounds to me like you are getting a divorce on paper, but not physically. Are you sure you two really want the divorce if you are going to be living in the same household. If neither of you want to live apart, then the divorce shouldn't go through. You need more time to think about what really happens in divorce. Divorce is not pleasant and is tough to go through, but the purpose of divorce is to no longer be obligated to the other person. If I were a kid then I would be very confused if my parents divorced and still lived together. Is that normal? Unfortunately, you can't straddle the fence on this one, it either is or isn't.....Good Luck
2006-12-09 00:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! I am doing that right now till I find a place of my own. Not working. It is just giving him the idea that there is still a chance for us to work things out. There is no hope for that. Not only that, but ALL kids hope their parents will get back together. That is just giving them false hope. What happens when either of you decide you want to start dating again? Will you have a schedule posted on the fridge listing when you can bring a date home and when she can bring a date home? Best thing to do is sell the home and split the assets. Move on. The kids will have a hard time understanding as it is. Don't make it harder on them...or yourselves.
2006-12-09 02:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really wants whats best for the kids do not put them through that. Either get divorced or don't. You can not have your cake and eat it to. If the two of you could live together after the divorce why can't you do while your married? Have you sought counseling?
2006-12-08 22:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mike E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why you are getting a divorce in the first place maybe you should try to reconcile. I couldn't live in the same house with a woman I was divorcing.
2006-12-08 22:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow..in theory it sounds like a great plan...will it actually work? I seriously doubt it....and talk about confusing for the kids......If everything is going to stay the same then why get divorced? I understand what you are trying to accomplish but think you are both very misguided...good luck to all of you....
2006-12-08 22:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats the point of getting divorce. Don't if u really think what is best for ur kids. u should get divorce. try to Loveeeeeeee ur wife a lotttt.
Good Luck
2006-12-08 23:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by saad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just described being married with kids. Try therapy before you involve your kids in a confusing situation that you don't even know if it will work or not.
2006-12-09 01:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have seen it before, but its not a healthy situation for anyone
and eventually the kids will figure it out and it will cause even more damage to them then you care to realize at this point, and they will turn on one or both down the road for being lied to
2006-12-08 22:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF I WAS YOU I WOULD STAY MARRIED. JUST RECONCILE. IT WILL BE IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILDREN AND YOU AND YOUR WIFE. IT WILL SAVE BOTH OF YOU A LOT OF MONEY, HATRED AND TROUBLES. STAY MARRIED.
2006-12-08 23:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by crane1951@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋