I've known this girl for about 15 yrs. We were each others first everything, including loves. We dated, moved in together, and it didn't work out at the time. Now I've recently been talking to her again, however, she is married now. Should I still maintain a friendship? Will her husband care? I fully respect the sanctity of marraige, but I've never really gotten over her. Ahhh, love was so good when you were 12 and 13 though. Are these normal feelings and concerns?
2006-12-08 22:38:27 · 6 answers · asked by j_pierce_823 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Like I said, I have great respect for her, her lucky husband, and their marriage. Her husband knows all the details regarding our past. I am very content knowing she is happy, and is being taken care of. I just want to have the friendship that we have always had. No more, no less.
2006-12-08 22:56:56 · update #1
I think the feelings are normal, as well as the concerns. If I were her husband, I wouldn't feel totally comfortable with this reunion, unless I was certain that my marriage was solid. To be a true friend, you have to remember that her marriage needs to come before your friendship. You wouldn't want to break them up, would you?
2006-12-08 22:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have mentioned she was your first for everything, i guess that makes you imagine of coud-have-beens. The fact that she's married now means you really have to be over her. A friendship with her is not bad but i guess you just have to be a step behind especially if the husband knows about your past. You wouldn't want her to be in trouble right?
2006-12-09 06:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by nozmiat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea to be friends with her, you still have more than a friendship feeling for her. There will come a time when you will want to tell her and that will only cause you more problems. Say goodbye and move on.
2006-12-09 07:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire the way that your concerned about her marriage and just not your own needs. My advice is if you know that you'll have a hard time just being her friend then back away now. If you can handle it then you would have to ask her husband how he feels about the two of you being friends.
2006-12-09 06:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She was your first love and it is normal to feel that way. I kind of had a similar problem except he wasn't married but I had a boyfriend that I was in love with so I didn't make anything out of my feelings because I was happy with my new boyfriend. But first loves are hard to forget.
2006-12-11 21:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by slvrcss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you totally honest? (Are you writing the truth?) You lost her love, and you are not feeling well. You can show yourself as a noble, as a gentleman. But you can fight! What do you have to loose? Try at least once more...
2006-12-09 12:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Apolo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋