Me and my ex-wife disagree on what to do with her wedding ring. I paid a lot of money for it, and really meant it when I gave it to her. Now we are young, divorced, but still friends. She is in a financial bind and wants to sell the ring. I feel she should keep it forever. Am I wrong?
2006-12-08 20:47:22 · 15 answers · asked by j_pierce_823 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I kept and gave mine to my daughter...maybe consider buying it from her if it means that much to you, quite obviouse it means nothing to her, she is not emotionally attatched to it as you appear to be...good luck!!!
2006-12-08 20:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you're coming from. You don't want to keep the ring by buying it from her - you want her to want to keep it herself because at one point, it meant everything to the two of you. Selling the ring is almost akin to her saying that she has no nostalgia or attachment to the marriage.
The thing is, she just may see it differently from you. Especially if you still have a good relationship and are friends. For you, the ring is a symbol of eveything that was important. She may not need physical symbols. Maybe photographs or memories are more important to her. The fact that she's contemplating selling the ring doesn't mean that you're not important in her life - as a husband in the past and a friend in the present.
One last suggestion - if it's really that important to you that she keep it, could you not help her out of the financial difficulty so she doesn't have to sell it?
2006-12-09 05:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by carokokos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As shitty as this sounds, it is HER wedding ring - so it's really up to her what she does with it. Yes, you paid a lot of money for it, but it really doesn't matter what you 'feel' she should do if she's your ex-wife.
(There is an etiquette involved with engagement rings - if the man calls off the engagement then the woman keeps the ring, and if the woman calls off the engagement then she returns the ring. However, realistically, if the ring is in her possession then there's not much you can do.)
2006-12-09 05:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave it to her as a giftso it is hers. She can do with it what she wants. Why is it an issue if you no longer are married to her it is just a symbol of the past. Do you want all the other present back you gave her over the years as well? As a suggestion why does she not have it valued and if you are desperate for her not to sell itthen agree to buy it from her. That way you will get to keep it.
2006-12-09 04:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you gave it to her it's hers to do with as she pleases. I know this hurts you, but the symbol the ring stood for (the marriage) is over, so why keep the symbol forever when she could use it now. Especially considering you two are friends now, I would think her future is more important then her past.
2006-12-09 06:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Buttons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave her the ring what she does with it is her business alone... Your marriage is over so the union the ring represented is over, what is the point of keeping it forever? If you want to keep it offer to pay her a fair price for the ring.. She may accept, otherwise back off the ring is hers to do with as she chooses...
My rings from my first marriage are inbedded in the asphalt at the corner of Bethany Home Road and 35th Ave in Phoenix, Arizona my ex demanded them so I threw them in the asphalt in front of him...
My sister used tin snips and cut hers into little tiny pieces... It was very symbolic as her ex made the set...
2006-12-09 05:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are wrong. You may have meant it when you gave it to her but you don't mean it now. It is her ring let her get some financial gain out of it if she can.
2006-12-09 06:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you gave her the ring, she can do anything she wants with it. Be it selling it since you two are divorced.
If you feel she should keep it, have you told her how you felt? I am guessing that you did.
Hopefully she'll find another way to solve her finances but it is her choice.
2006-12-09 04:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then let her keep it, as it is what you want, and give her the money that she needs. Problem solved. At least she is trying to do something to sort out her financial problems. Yes you are wrong.
2006-12-09 05:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should she keep it forever? She is your ex. She isn't going to wear it forever. Legally she can do anything with it. The decision is hers on this.
2006-12-09 10:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are wrong i mean if theres nothing bewteen the two of you then i think the best thing is to get rid of it. and is her ring not yours and she can do what ever she wants with it. im so sorry to hear that .
2006-12-09 04:53:08 · answer #11 · answered by ❤נαcкiε❤ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋