How can i stop the people in my office from teasing me ?

Question

Iam a new employee i have been in the work for 7 months, and every one think that i am below them , how i can be hard but not bad , will iwant to keep my job with my dignity

Answer 1

Stop giving them ammo to fire at you with

Answer 2

I don't know that you can. The good news is that you CAN show them that you are not going to let their immaturity affect you and the way you go about your daily routine. You don't have to be "hard" but, you can develop an "attitude" of strength and mental elegance. Basically, take a kind of "personal inventory" of yourself and your behaviors. If there is something that you feel insecure about, examine what it is and make a conscious effort to take control of it. People pick up on things like that. Unfortunately, most of the people that you run into on a day to day basis, like at work, are going to be...well, assholes. Once they've sensed that they can't affect how you feel about yourself, they'll lose interest and get bored with trying to tease you. It's actually pretty sad that alot of people think it's fun and amusing to put others down. That, however, is their weakness - not their strength. You are already stronger than they are, because you have the sensitivity to feel and to care. They are weak and shallow people who will never have anything of importance because the one thing they don't have, that you do (or will learn to believe that you do) is self-respect. Also, that is the one thing that no one can ever take away from you. Self-respect is something you have to give away. Don't give them the satisfaction. They don't deserve it. Best of luck. You'll be fine.

Answer 3

There's a fine line between teasing and harassment so make sure you are aware which side your coworkers are playing. Teasing is fun while harassment is more serious. It's great to play along with things and show your fun side; however, if things are dampening your performance it may be time to find a new position. Get management or HR involved if you have to but try to resolve conflicts on your own. If you stand up for yourself they may lose interest in picking on you. It's funny, isn't it, that people usually tease the most productive cogs in the wheels out of jealousy??? Be strong. Do your job to the best of your ability. Monitor the difference between teasing and harassment because an unproductive workplace won't be around long. Always watch out for your own best interests.

Answer 4

Well this reverts back to childhood days when you just ignore and move on. Eventually if you do with maturity and respect, you will earn the respect. Consider this situation that occured for me:

I was working for a prominent state office, and I got tired of being harassed. I brought it up to my superiors and pretty much whined about it incessantly. For a non-descript horrific reason, I am no longer working there. I believe the official reasoning was "excessive use of state email". Get this. Everyone in the office used email more then me.

So if you make yourself a nuisance you make yourself a target. Put on headphones if you can, don't worry about cliques and fitting in right now with the right co-workers. Corporate kiss-butting will certainly fuel the fire, but do do little simple things to impress the bosses, that wont be noticeable to anyone but them.

Answer 5

Sorry, but with some jobs, you just don't get both job and dignity. It's unfortunate, but many workplaces are like chicken houses. Chickens will find one spot on another chicken and pick it to death. That poor chicken will run all over the yard. But, once they've singled her out, it's a matter of time before she's dead. The only way to help her is to take her out, put some icky salve on her sore, and put her back in the pen. When the others pick again, they taste the bitter taste of the salve, and shake their heads & go away. Now, not every chicken picks on this hen. Just a few. I don't know why that is. Might be that they're just the bullies of the chicken world. And there's always a few, in every bunch. Now, in relation to humans, it's not too far from the chicken coop. You'll always find one or two bullies at every job. They've taken it upon themselves to set the new guy in his place by finding a weak spot, then picking it to death. The trick, for you, is to find the salve that they will find too bitter to pick. You could try a come-back, whenever you get picked on. Something like, "Hey, nice shirt", then walk away. Don't say it in a nasty way. Really mean it. Giving someone a compliment, after they've just trashed you (in front of others) will be just like that bitter salve. They won't like the feeling they have, 'cause you stole their fun. When the picking ceases to be fun, they'll pick somewhere else. I used to woirk in a factory with 40 women, which are the most vicious to work with. They'd all be talking trash about men, and I'd not join in. Sometimes they'd poke fun at me, but I ignored them, not showing them that it registered on my radar screen. I always ate lunch away from the rest, 'cause I didn't want to join in with their nasty stuff. I was there to work, not socialize. They didn't sign my paycheck. If your co-workers want to think that you're below them, that's their problem, not yours. You're not there to make their day. Find joy in your work, keep your focus on your work, and ignore those who will poke at you. They just want you to be as miserable as they are. Just try the compliments. A few days of your positive comments, and they'll either leave you alone, or begin to like you. Or they might just continue being their same old nasty selves. Keeping the job is what's important, not brownie points with the hired help, of which they are. Just remember that...they're being paid, just like your are. It doesn't matter if your wages are more or less. You're all just the hired help. When you keep things in their proper perspective, you see things differently. <*)))><

Answer 6

some people at work are just showoffs, they have inferior complexes, therefore they group up and tease the new comers.
You play politics, give more than 100% to your work and be in good books with the bosses, once you get a promotion or recognition by the boss they will shut up!

Answer 7

when they tease you ignore them.
better still, play along and they will soon realise its not that fun.
or don't help them to do things for them..
7 months is a lot, i pity you.

remember ! when a newer employee comes, don't tease him since you know how it feels.

good luck !

(if things really get out of hand, tell ya boss!)

Answer 8

It sounds like you have a low opinion of youself. When they can crap out a bouquet of roses they're better than you. If someone "Throws a zinger" Throw one back, show that you're not a doormat, and they'll respect you more.

Answer 9

groups of people always tease or rip on the weakest charcter, have self-cofidence, tease them back or find them someone else to tease so that they ignore you

Answer 10

You should be good to your office mates................ You should give them food!!!! Go out with them!!! HAve fun..... Or if they keep on tesding you ,,, well you better kick them!!!