Are they generally unsure of how to react to anger directed at them?(as oposed to men?)I notice that most women get very quiet when a man seems like he's having a fit of emotional outburst or is about to.Is it the so-called"weaker sex"issue,or are women just more sensitive which causes them to be unsure in those type of situations?
2006-12-08 20:26:04 · 10 answers · asked by Raphael m 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
have you ever noticed how, when you get angry, and someone yells back at you, you tend to get even MORE angry? going quiet is really the best strategy, when you think about it, and it has nothing to do with all that 'weaker sex' crap. if we let them do their childish ranting without interruption, the ordeal tends to end sooner.
2006-12-08 20:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Vae 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Conversely, I've seen as many women respond with aggression, and men respond with silence. It really does depend on the individual. Most of us will probably respond differently at different times, at that. On those occasions when I keep quiet until the person in question loses steam, I'm usually too tired for an argument and choose to avert it, or I'm in a positive frame of mind and don't want to lose it to someone else's bad mood, so I'll wait it out and talk them around. But then there are other times when I'll say 'okay, fine, but don't take it out on me', or I'll argue back, or I'll act appallingly chipper to exaserbate the other person (generally if it's someone I don't like).
To answer your question about the 'weaker sex' issue, I suppose some women still think that way, but a lot are responding as I do, depending on thier mood. Now I'm in a more peaceful state of mind than I used to be, and a bit more emotionally disciplined, I often stay quiet so I'll hear what the other person's concerns are and thus be able to address them in a constructive manner (rather than having to remember the bit of martial arts training I had some time back!).
2006-12-09 14:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be surprised to learn that the women who have a lot of self-control when it comes to anger observe (or are having to deal with) a man's lack of self-control; they will see him as someone with little ability to control his emotions. They will not respect this weakness they perceive. They feel above such behavior, so refuse to engage in any fighting.
Most of the time when people have lost control of their emotions they say things that are not reasonable. Women who are the type who control their emotions will not bother to attempt to reason with a person who is unreasonable.
These women sit in silence and wait out the foolishness. While it is going on they see little to respect in the infantile behavior, and they may be angry that an adult is unwilling or unable to control his temper.
Remember in the old Star Trek that quiet, kind of superior attitude Vulcans had when observing "human emotions"? Remember how in Next Generation the Klingons were similar in their disdain for weakness? The silent women you ask about may well be sitting in silent judgment of a person they see as weak and inferior.
I'm sure there are times when a battered wife will be silent out of fear; but if you're talking about the run-of-the-mill lack of self-control that so many men have, women aren't the least bit afraid. They're disgusted.
They see the man as a child who is having a tantrum, so they're going to ignore him until he knocks it off. They decide he will get nothing from them as long as he's acting like a maniac or a baby, and there are few words to describe the silent contempt they feel for the childish man. They see his behavior as so bizarre and absurd and infantile they will not dignify it with any response or reaction.
Surprise!!
2006-12-09 04:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason they clam up is because they are memorizing everything we are saying word for word... that way they can quote it back to us six months later when a completely different issue arises, thus confusing us and throwing us off balance since we have no idea what they are talking about, and since we can't remember what we said two days ago, let alone six months ago.
Don't let yourself be fooled by the term 'weaker sex'.
2006-12-09 13:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Passions Unchained 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about that. I see lots of women stand up for themselves when their man gets angry...
But then there are some women who do get quiet when they do. Sorta like letting them vent.
Maybe some men are abusive if the woman tries to do anything so they stay quiet to protect themselves.
There's many reasons..... however I have seen men get quiet too!
2006-12-09 04:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way a woman behaves depends on the individual (her personality, past experiences, etc) as well as cultural norms on how a woman "ought" to act.
In Western culture, it is pretty common that men will try not to show fear and that women will try not to show anger. This isn't based on any biological differences between the sexes, just cultural norms.
2006-12-09 04:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good point! I think women are more use to hearing other women yell and scream, so when a man finally loses it, people kind of freeze for a couple seconds before responding LOL.
2006-12-09 17:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason we clam up when the guys are having their outburst is just to let them vent. When all is said and done, then we say our piece. It's not being unsure. It's being mature.
2006-12-09 07:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Sherbet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are unsure because of different reasons.
Rafa??
2006-12-09 04:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're talking about men, not women. you just got confused...
2006-12-09 04:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋