There is this girl I like and she is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug or anything even though I am a more touchy kind of guy I mean with everybody I always love hugs. She likes me and she knows I like her. so wht do you think I should do ? and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige
2006-12-08 20:21:22 · 6 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you really like this girl which I think you do.
Have lots of patience with her.
It could be that she's been hurt in the past and is scared.
Keep trying.
But if you see she's uncomfortable stop.
Stoke her arm. In a non sexual way.
Place you hand on her back.
Have her first feel comfortable with your touch, before you try hugging and kissing.
You could even start with just kissing her goodbye on the cheek.
You'll earn her trust and respect.
I was like her.
And today, I’m so grateful for my husband.
I love having him touch me.
I feel safe in his arms.
But it took time.
Be patient, when the time is right she'll open like a beautiful flower to your touch.
2006-12-08 21:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Louw D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you know what, i'm the same. when i'm only acquainted with someone i feel really uncomforatable giving kisses on the cheek or hugs, but once i know them or we've done the whole 'kisses & hugs' thing at least once, it's fine!
to tell the truth i love giving & recieving hugs, even from strangers, but it just catch me off guard & hence the uncomfortable-ness. definitely go for a neutral hug the next time you say goodbye to her & see how it goes! she might not respond well the first time but she'll be prepared for the second & should react a little better.
2006-12-09 04:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by sienna of hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just try holding her hands and giving her hugs. if you guys are comfortable around each other, and talk about anything, she is just probably waiting for you to touch her. i mean she went out with you because she knew you were going to give her affection.
and i respect your abstinence, i too am a touchy person, but will never cross the line.
2006-12-09 04:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by wholeeinthemiddle@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, have you asked her about it? I'm a chic, who doesn't like to go too forward, maybe she's the sensitive type girl, and wants a good relationship. Just talk about this to her (not too much, or she'll think your just using/hosing her). She might not want to be the "touchy feely' type in public, but try her in private
2006-12-09 04:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Caity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask this girl if you can hold her hands...if she said it's okay with her then do it...but if she said " No, you can't" then respect her for that. Just wait for the time where she makes the first move to hold you or touch you. Just be patient.
2006-12-09 05:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by dimma59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her if she wants to be a nun, and if your saving your self for marriage, then you should not be touching anyway.
2006-12-09 04:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋