Beauty is the number one thing in the world?

Question

Okay. As an UN-attractive person, I will tell you...looks matter in EVERYthing, every aspect of life. Don't tell me "it's on the inside that counts" or "everyone is beautiful in their own way". That's bullshit and you know it. There is a natural pecking order and we're all slaves to it. When we're young, who do we have crushes on? Beautiful people. When we're older...what are we looking for? Beautiful mates. Personality keeps you there sure, but looks get you there in the first place. I am so sick of people saying it doesn't matter! Especially that stupid Dove campaign for little girls. I'm sorry, but not every girl CAN feel beautiful, because not every girl IS beautiful. They know, we know it...yet we're sitting there trying to convince them they're not ugly. Because, yeah it hurts like hell! But, don't lie to them! And, they don't call it "inner beauty" for nothing. It's meant to be on the inside. No one should have to use their inner beauty to make up for their outer

No. I am not saying go tell little girls they are ugly, but why would you lie to them and tell them they are beautiful JUST to build their self esteem? I HAVE a gorgeous man, and I HAVE money. I HAVE self esteem and confidence. But, beauty is still what rules the world. Money can buy you friends and power and "hot things"...but it can't buy you looks. Plastic surgery doesn't automatically make someone look good. Of course ugly people have relationships...ugly people still get things that beautiful people do, not everything though. And, ugly people get a hell of a lot of suffering and hardship than beautiful people will EVER experience. And, it's not about self-esteem. Ugly little girls are ******. Sure, they might find love with a beautiful person like I have, but they'll never be beautiful, which is a suffering no one but ugly people can understand. And, the bible...what a terrible reference! Anyways, insecurities have nothing to do with it. I'm just stating the facts.

What the hell...some commenter said I should get off my high horse because I am nice looking. IF YOU EVEN READ MY POST YOU WILL SEE THE SECOND WORD I USED WAS THAT I AM UN-ATTRACTIVE. And, I can't believe you would have the nerve to say I'm on a high horse when you are endorsing LYING to young children to give them FALSE confidence! That's all we need in the world, more dishonest little pricks taught by their parents who are in denial. I don't care if you support the Dove campaign, that's your preference, but all it's doing is encouraging everyone to lie to eachother. And, kids see right through you. You think that just because YOU or someone else says they're beautiful when THEY know themselves that they aren't...that they will believe you? Please, don't underestimate kids. They aren't stupid. If they have a million people at school making fun of their looks everyday, there's no way they'll believe they are pretty just because mommy and daddy tells them so.

Apparently, no one even reads the question fully before answering. That's smart. So, I will say AGAIN...I am NOT beautiful and that's why that was my question.

Answer 1

You are absolutely right. Inferior looks hurts a person, more so the female, in unbelievably numerous and various ways and can even do real damage. And we extend our prejudice for beauty into everything ...... as a result, more often than not form gets precedence over content.

I used to strongly believe that physical beauty is less important than inner qualities, that utility counts more than looks and that form is merely to identify whereas it is contents that define. Experience has taught me the hard way that my strong belief was just an ideal dream..... the reality is different. It takes more intelligence, time and effort to reckon inner qualities or utility or contents..... people prefer to go by the easy route of judging by the looks and appearance most of the times. This realisation has been quite a shock to me. I strongly believe now that half the problems of this world indeed lies in this failure to see and reckon the inner qualities and contents!!

Answer 2

Hi Lalafoxy !!!

Look for you beauty may be the most important thing, but in the real world is NOT.

1. The most important thing is "POWER" !!!!!!!! Trust me.

Beauty, is not the first or second most important thing.

2. The second most important thing is "PERSONALITY"

3. The third most important thing is "KNOWLEDGE".

4.Now comes "BEAUTY"

Probably your self esteem is very low, is this is the case, do yourself a favor and take a crash course on ; "HOW TO BUILD UP YOUR SELF ESTEEM".
What ever you are going through, is it with the person that you love, doesn't respond to you, that also happens to beautiful people too!!! Look at Jennifer Aniston and Brat Pitt!!!!

"YOU SHOULD SHINE THROUGH THE INSIDE OUT; NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND". Believe in yourself, and others will believe in you.

ALLIV Z

Answer 3

I think the Dove campaign is related more to how all of us see beauty. North Americans have such an extreme idea of what we consider to be beautiful and kids are getting so caught up in it that there’s more anorexia and bulimia going on than at any time in our past. Why do we have kids in junior high and high school with eating disorders?? Supermodels aren’t even real anymore, they’re airbrushed to make them look ‘perfect’. Our concept of beauty has become so extreme, that it’s impossible for even beautiful women to live up to them anymore. I think the point is to broaden our thinking about what is beautiful. It's not lying to the kids, it's to help them build enough self esteem that they don't waste their lives worrying about their 'cuteness factor" because at the end of the day it's their belief in themselves that will bring them success.
Yes, I agree that beauty counts. It creates better opportunities and more of them. There was a John Stossel special on TV earlier this year where he did a full hour story on exactly that. How they can send out an identical resume with identical credentials and the more attractive person will always win the competition for the job and get paid more as well. Unfair? Most definately. Right now, if you don’t fit the stereotype of what our continent thinks is beautiful you’re basically hooped but frankly I don’t think you’d be in any different a position that any immigrant coming to this country and having to face the prejudices of our culture against someone who’s different. It is a prejudice.
Wouldn’t it be great if we were to broaden the beauty parameters to include more diverse looks? Wouldn’t that then create those same opportunities for more people because the parameters are wider? Better yet, wouldn’t it be great to be in a world where such nonsense means nothing and a person could go through life focused on who you are, what you’re good at, how you can be a better person and contribute positively to the world and enjoying the experience of living rather than worrying about BS like your fat thighs and how you compare to the most recent supermodel?
To go a step further, lets look at a person who isn't focused on that sort of crap and has enough intelligence and ambition to strike out on their own and not be at the mercy of an employer. Do you think people who are busy accumulating real wealth are wasting their time worrying about whether their hair is perfect for the business meeting today? They count on their charisma, their intelligence, their ability to negotiate and their integrity to get them to the top. Do you think Donald Trump REALLY cares what you or anyone else thinks about his hair?? Did it stop him from rising to the top?
Your rant has made me appreciate once again, the fact that I have no time or energy to waste on such frivolous crap. I have a wonderful man who’s attractive to ME and adores me. I have enough money to have a comfortable life and I have friends who love me for myself and if I didn’t have a dime in my pocket, they’d still love me just the same.
Thanks for making me appreciate my life and perspectives!!!

Answer 4

Apparently I have to say, yes beauty is obviously the number one thing for so many people in this world. Beauty is a very important thing for most common people in this world. This is a fact of life and let's face it. This is human nature to always seek for the beautiful people. Gay, straight, elders, children, youngsters, all look for beauty. Maybe you do the same..... :) BUT, what most people forget is... they are obsessed with external beauty ONLY. They really don't know what is internal beauty, what inner beauty is. Most people blind for inner beauty. External beauty is more exciting and more desirable for common people cuz that's what the first thing they really see from you.

So, as you write above that you are an unattractive person, you should NOT let external beauty bring you down..... Stand tall and take pride in yourself that you could be very very beautiful from inside... Show to the world that you are indeed beautiful inside... your inner beauty is incomparable.
When we're older...what are we looking for? Beautiful mates, you've said above. Yes.... BUT who wants live with an angel in disguise? Who wants to spend their life with a cherub in masquerade? Who wants to live with a wolf in a sheep clothing?
If only you know what I'm talking about here....
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Answer 5

So, you're proposing that we're just supposed to tell kids, "Hey, you're f*cking ugly. Go cry in your little corner over there..." I really don't that's conducive in building someone's self-esteem and confidence, two things you obviously seem to lack. You don't have to be the stereotypical beauty, but that doesn't mean you can't get someone if you wanted to. It's charisma and personality that really wins someone over.

You know those girls that are... overweight, who wear those really tight tops and have their sides sticking out and falling over their tight jeans? That would be a display of extreme confidence. I assure you that it doesn't look good, but they still have relationships... plenty of them. Besides, it's all subjective. What one person says looks good, another person can totally disagree. For instance, Brad Pitt. A lot (majority) says he's hot, yet there's a minority who believes otherwise. Beauty isn't a set thing, and the only thing you're proving right now is how much you can rant and how many insecurities you really have with yourself.

Answer 6

Putting a question mark at the end of a sentence doesn't make it a question. You didn't even ask a question. You're just using this as a forum to b***h about being ugly. Well, ok, so you're ugly. So what? If you don't like ads where they're telling ugly kids they are beautiful, complain to them. Geez.

Answer 7

no, beauty is not the number one thing in the world, money is. the sooner you figure that one out, you'll understand that you can buy beauty. and just about anything else you want. friends, nice things, cars, homes, what ever! the only think that it can't buy you is happiness, you are the only one to be able to do that for you. it is not up to someone else to tell you weather you are an unattractive person, but you. I've been in your boat before, lots of times as i am certainly not the life of the party. i have before been the fattest girl there, i have been the oldest girl there, the quietest girl there. i realized it was my own responsibility to take care of me and my feelings. once i realized i was in control, no one else was, i got stronger in believing in myself regardless of what others might say or think.

Answer 8

I think you are right to a point. Beauty can get you in the door, but brains will keep you in the door. As an average looking girl it does hurt when I am looked over by men or in a career situation, but I always remember Judge Judy's book title.....Beauty fades, Dumb is forever.

Answer 9

You know what you need to get over yourself. Why do you care how people look? I know its your opinion but keep it to yourself. You don't have self-esteem you have a attitude, and get a life. Why do you care about looks anyways? You act like its going to hurt you if you don't look beautiful. Beauty is not everything and whats so wrong buying beauty? if you can buy why can't we?. you may be beautiful but your inside is ugly. I don't give a danm if you are beauiful or not. You need to stop judging how they look and start paying attention on who they are. And that what makes them beautiful. And its not bullshit, you are just talking bullshit. Well sorry if no one can be as beautiful as you, you just have to accept it, i mean not just you, everyone. Also not everyone has money like you so GET OVER YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

The #1 thing in the world is Unconditional love. The essence of your being is Unconditional love. Every where you go, everyone and every thing you see, silently tell all that I know who you are,you are unconditional love also. soon you will have so much love in your life you will have to wear lead shoes to prevent you from floating away. Especially tell young toddlers this,they will break out in a big grin an reach to hug you.